I think there is a big difference between hope and obsession. A little bit of hope goes a long way. Hope is a comfort, a feeling that we can at times rely on just to get us to that next point where we need to be at. Obsession is something that goes a little bit beyond hope. Instead of getting that comfort, we may at times begin to imagine things they may not really be there. This is why I question whether obsession is healthy?

Alot of time & energy goes into obsessing about things and over a long period of time this may impact in a negative way on our lives. Not being able to fall pregnant is probably one of the hardest things a female can go through. There is no escape from it, you want it, it is all around you. There is always someone in your life getting pregnant, being pregnant, having the baby.......and this cycle continues over and over. When you can't get pregnant and you see others around you getting pregant, some taking awhile and others very quickly, you feel frustrated, why can't this happen to you? And so the obsessing begins.

Personally after 5 years of trying to concieve, I have never once given up hope and I never will. But I have also found acceptance between myself and my dh that it just might not happen and as hard as it is, we are okay with that.