Is it okay to feel ready for baby but not older kids....
My OH and I are thinking of TTC #1 later this year. I feel increasingly ready to start a family, as does OH (albeit his readiness less than mine ) and after visiting friends of ours over the weekend with 2 months old twins our readiness (or cluckiness, is that the same thing??) is even more apparent!
But...I'm having a mini-crisis at the moment about the whole thing. I volunteered at my SIL's childcare centre to help out with vacation care (school age kids) and holy crap..... I realised that I'm actually terrified of children older than 4 in groups of more than 2! Give me a room full of screaming babies or toddlers and I'm fine but kids....eek! Which got me thinking...OMG what if that means that I'm not ready to have kids.
So I ask you ladies, is it okay for me to be ready for a baby but not a school age child??
It isn't as though I NEVER want older children, just not now. I want a baby, I want to bring up a child and figure that by the time my kid gets to be school aged, I won't be scared of them and will love them and like them and all that.
For those that already have kids, did you feel the same way when you first began TTC or thinking about it. Or for those that didn't plan their pregnancy, did you have these thoughts when you first found out?
You were thrown in the deep end with no wading.
When you have your own you grow with them and their stages so you don't notice the age, it's part of your and their growth.
All parents feel at a loss at some stage, when having kids to watching them get married.
If we didn't have doubts where would we be....no, don't answer that one, there is not enough hours in the day to read the replies.
You will do fine. No point looking that far ahead, just live in the present and enjoy the ride.
Absolutely agree with Rivlas ... though I was kind of the opposite to you. Liked older kids but was scared witless of babies, simply because I had never been around them.
Its so different with your own kids then it is with other peoples.
I to sometimes can't stand other peoples kids but i love my own.
You will be fine and you will grow with your little babies.
Good luck
My pregnancy wasn't planned and I felt exactly this way and still sort of do. I felt okay about having a baby but I really wasn't happy about the fact that she would grow up! I've always loved babies but the thought of school-age children or teenagers terrifies me. Don't really have any advice because I am hoping (like others have reassured you above) that it will be different when it is my own and we are growing together but wanted to let you know that you aren't alone! My DD is only 4 weeks old and I still feel anxious about the older stages but I'm just taking it one day at a time and enjoying her as a baby while I can
I think it is normal to have doubts, worries and concerns -- it lets you know you are going to strive for the best and that is kind of reassuring, if you know what I mean!
you'll grow with them. When I had a 4mth old I never thought I would be able to handle a 1yr old and so on. Try not to look into the future and worry about it. It is soo much easier to take it all as it comes....instead of worrying about what hasn''t happened yet
Is it okay to feel ready for baby but not older kids....
) and after visiting friends of ours over the weekend with 2 months old twins our readiness (or cluckiness, is that the same thing??) is even more apparent!
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