thread: Older Mums

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    AngelBeth Guest

    Older Mums

    I am sure this topic has been covered many times before but as a 39 year old trying to get pregnant for the first time I was wondering how many other first time mums are my age or older and has it been a problem. My gynocologist has told me all the risks that can happen as a worse case scenario but because I am healthy she predicts there should be no problems. I was just wondering with the IVF aspect as I know the chance of success declines with age and I wonder how many older mums have had successful pregnancies.

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    Mar 2004

    One of my friends started TTC for the first time aged 37. She got a BFP within 4 months and now she has a gorgeous little 7 month old daughter.

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jan 2004
    Melbourne, Australia

    I had no problems getting pg. when I was 39 and was really well and healthy during my pg. We started trying for another child when I was 41 and have had no luck after over 2 years of trying. You can only try and see what happens as everyone is different. Wishing you lots of luck .

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Feb 2005

    Hi Angel,

    It does seem to be a different scenario with each woman. Generally, over 35, it may take longer to conceive so it is good that your doctor has warned you about what can happen. How long have you been trying? If you've been trying naturally for longer than six months, it might be time to be referred to a specialist at an IVF clinic. I wish I'd gone earlier. I started trying at 34 and waited over 12 months to succeed on my own before seeking a referral. It took a further six months to get into the specialist. I then had some more tests, an operation to remove endometriosis and about six attempts at conception using artificial insemination before we started our first stim cycle in June. I am very lucky to have responded well to the drugs and conceived on the first attempt. I'm now 37 and will be 38 by the time the baby is born. IVF worked really well for me and I never hesitate to recommend it to others because you never know how it will work for you until you try.

    Good luck with your treatment and investigations.


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    BellyBelly Member

    Feb 2005
    Mid North Coast NSW

    my SIL has 2 children already, but at 37 they decided to have a third, and fell pg on the second cycle - quicker than with the first 2 when she was younger!

    everyone is different. good luck,


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    Life Member

    May 2003
    Beautiful Adelaide!

    A good friend of mine was 42 when she started TTC. She didn't fall pg within 6 months so went for testing and it was found that a previous case of chylamidia (sp?) had rendered her tubes useless, so she and her partner embarked on IVF.

    She was 43 when she fell pregnant with her son & after a healthy pregnancy she had a perfect little boy. When her son was 6 months old she started IVF again for #2, and she is now about 39 weeks pregnant edxpecting a little girl!

    On both her IVF attempts she got pregnant second go.........


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    AngelBeth Guest

    Thank you so much for all your inspiring replies! It has given me a little bit of hope now. We are embarking on IVF and my specialist wants us to start by the end of the year. I have had all the tests and am healthy in every way so I am hoping all will be well. My husband will be the problem as he had a vasectomy 14 years ago so they will try and extract sperm from him and use them but will need to test for deformed sperm. All in all it is quite a process and all we can do is try. Thank you all again for the hope you have given me!