Been ttc #1 since April - I know its not long (although it feels like forever!!) mc'd last cycle just shy of 6wks
Currently on cycle # 5 cd 40 dpo 16 ystrdy -
Anywho I was interested to know peoples thoughts on the theory that " will happen as soon as you let go" - at the moment it's ALL I can think about. Driving mr zeg up the wall - I'm sure of it!!
Just interested in other peoples thoughts about this theory - or is it just my sister being my sister??!!
I'm not sure how true it is - my cousin was trying for about 10 years and went through IVF and everything - still no babies.. then one day they decided, nope, just live with the fact they won't have any babies.. and then they went on a nice relaxing holiday - fell pregnant. they now have two kids....
I think that in some women, stress can mess with fertility/ovulation or something. I know I didn't become pregnant until we settled down. (We moved and had job changes a couple of times while we were TTC #1, and it took 15 months.) So that maybe can be a factor. But to simply say that when you stop worrying about it, it will happen, is not true! So I wouldn't listen to your sister. And hopefully, next cycle will be a good one for you. Give yourself time to mourn your lost pregnancy, too. All the best!
I'm sorry to say, but I do agree with that theory. With my first baby, it was all I could think about too for three months and on the fourth cycle I was determined not to count the days and read things into every symptom and that was the cycle I fell pregnant.
With my second baby, we werent in a hurry to fall pregnant as my son was only 5 months old but thought we would start TTC'ing anyway and see what happened. Because we werent in a hurry, we were very relaxed and we happened to fall pregnant first cycle.
I know it is very hard to do, but I do think relaxing and not assuming every symptom is pregnancy related might be the key ....
About 11 years ago I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. 8.5 years of no babies with my ex husband. Nothing seemingly wrong with either of us. Recommended to go on IVF but didn't go that path. Clomid didn't work.
Fast forward to the next relationship. 9 months into TTC I fell pregnant (early m/c). About 3 months later I was pregnant again (early m/c). I became obsessed with getting pregnant. Got told at my age (41 at the time) IVF was my only chance of success. The pressure on our relationship was huge and my DF & I separated for about a month. I came to terms with the fact that I would never be a mum. We got back together again & I fell pregnant immediately. We were not TTCing (just weren't careful). I was drinking loads of coffee & was very stressed at the time, wasn't taking vitamins, yet this one stuck.
My son was born 14 years after I first tried to become a mum, but 9 months after I had given up any hope of it ever happening.
hi mrs zeg - i think it can be true - stress def plays a part in taking a long time to get preg and it did with me. i got preg on hols after 12 months on ttc at home (was not charting or anything). i think stress and worry does play a part. i know of others as well where a holiday has worked wonders!!
Also - do enjoy being DINKS - life changes a lot!!! (for the better overall but you do miss some of the good old days sometimes!)
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So - is it true?
ystrdy -
will happen as soon as you let go" - at the moment it's ALL I can think about. Driving mr zeg up the wall - I'm sure of it!!
they now have two kids....
And hopefully, next cycle will be a good one for you.
Give yourself time to mourn your lost pregnancy, too. All the best!
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