TTC #2 when DS is 7-8 months

[Sparkles]

Hi all,
Just after some feedback - Dh and I will be TTC #2 when DS is 7-8 months old. We have always wanted our children quite close together and i know alot of ppl think we are mad but it could happen straight away or take a while (like DS did!). What i am most scared about though is not having two under 2, but how did anyone cope with the nausea/morning sickness and the deathly tired feeling you get for the 1st 12 weeks or so??
I remember when pregnant with DS, by about 4pm each day i literally couldn't keep my eyes open and of course i still want DS to have my attention, i am lucky that we run our own business do DH can be here for me pretty much when i need him but just curious as to how other people coped?
Sorry a bit of a ramble, any feedback would be great...i know it will be hard work but hopefully they will be best of friends growing up!!!
Thanks in adavance...

[Mad Scientist]

I fell pg when DD1 was 6 months old. We planned it and were so happy. The girls ended up being 14 months apart. In relation to morning sickness, you have no choice but to cope I guess. My DD1 and I just cuddled a lot. I made myself accept help from close friends and family but other than that you just have to sleep when they do and cope the bet you can. I'm sorry I don't have any advice. I just struggled through because I had to and I found that my body managed. It was tOugh but we got through it. Good luck with TTC! Having two close together is wonderful! I'm so glad we did it this way xx

[mbear]

i fell pg when DD#2 was 10mths old....TBH...i hated it...the first 3 months of that pregnancy. Not so much the morning sickness, but the tired almost zombie like effect i would experience all day. I also had a toddler at home to entertain. I spent a lot of that time lying on the floor whilst the girls sat on me, crawled over me, or layed with me. I couldnt wait for them to go to bed, so i could go to bed. I didnt like feelling like that....each to their own though, we do what we have to do. Talking from experience, my biggest age gap is 29mths...my smallest 19mths...much prefer the 29mth gap. For me, i coped better....GL.

[Ginger]

i used to get in bed with ds1 every afternoon and have a nanna nap together. it was the only way i could get through the pg tiredness!

[grub17]

i fell preg (deliberately - through frozen embryo transfer after years of IVF) when DS was 10 months old. the worst part of the first three months was not being able to feed him his dinner etc because one look at his mush and I'd be hurling! and then he'd cry and get really upset

but we moved interstate so the first trimester flew by for us and I coped a lot better this time round than with DS, despite being sicker. You just do what you have to.

But now i'm 25 weeks and its hard. he wants to climb on me and have me lift him and it's just so hard for me. I can't clean up his toys all off the ground cos it kills my back etc my belly is really big so that gets in the way too. The housework has gone downhil big time cos i'm tired.

However, I don't feel DS doesn't get my attention. He's nearly 15 months (will be 18 months when bub arrives) and can play on his own a lot. He's been walking for a few months now so i don't need to supervise him as much etc so I do get the lay on teh lounge and just watch him play iykwim.

I think it would be a little tougher if he was only just starting to move and get into everything he shouldn't ...

Anyhoo, what i'm trying to say is go for it. You won't 'neglect' your first, you'll just make it work for you. And if you are going to have another, your DS is going to have to get used to him not always being the centre of mummy's attention iykwim. And the fact your DH is a great support - well that'll make the world of difference.!!!

good luck with it

[Sparkles]

Thanks guys, i think i just wanted to hear from people who got through it!! As most people think we are MAD!! hey, i never said i wasn't mad but i look forward to it

[Belle]

I am also going to try for #2 next months which will make DS 8 months old. I know it will be harder this time as with my first pregnancy I gave up work at 8 weeks and so could just sleep, relax, eat whenever I wanted. But at the same time I am looking forward to it as well. I too want my kids to be close in age, and I guess one bonus for me is that I will have my family and be done with being pregnant soon and then I can enjoy my kids as they grow together.

[RainbowBrite]

The first trimester can be hard...the tiredness, hormones, morning sickness and dealing with a baby can be testing but it sounds like you have a very supportive DH which helps a lot.
My closest gap is 11mths between my two younger girls and that was exhausting (and the fact i had 5 others)...and 13mths between my last two.
My two eldest are 17mths apart and I have found that my favourite age gap.
Good luck with TTC I hope it happens quickly for you...a close gap is fun and rewarding.