To test or not to test

[Miss_Dee]

So DP and I have recently decided to start TTC. We're still in the 'if it happens, it happens' stage though I can already feel myself becoming impatient.

Since going off the pill at the beginning of the year, I seem to have a 35 day cycle. Day 35 was 3 days ago. It is entirely possible that AF is just a little late, especially given I only stopped the pill a matter of months ago but I'm hoping that's not the case. Every month I find myself looking for symptoms that might indicate PG, and each time I do a test I get BFN.

Now, being potentially a few days overdue, I know I'm doing the same thing. I'm feeling everything I have before except I've now also got heartburn. Every time I test I get disappointed when it's not BFP so I don't know if I should just bite the bullet and do a test already, or wait a bit longer for AF.

[Babyluv]

Do a test
Hope a congrats is in order!!!

[meow]

I'm a serial tester so I just say test. I was always bummed at negatives but it never stopped me testing from about 9-10 days past ovulation each cycle

[Amy_jellybean]

Im a POAS addict as well....TEST TEST TEST!!!!!

[RhiChiChi]

I'd test - you are overdue your usual (ish) AF date. Best of luck!

[CQuin]

I'm in the same boat! Since going off the pill in September my cycles have been getting shorter. Starting in the 40's and last two cycles were 31 days. If they stick at 31 days that would mean AF should have arrived yesterday. I have the cramping the last few days, and i know that i'm more than likely not pregnant dues to DH having a low sperm count after a VR in December. I think it will be less disappointing for me to just wait for AF to arrive rather than test and get a BFN. Then i will wonder, "maybe its wrong" if i have to wait another week for AF to show. I want so bad to do a test and be pregnant!

[ladybirdflies]

Goodluck when you do POAS. I don't think I could have even held out enough to write the post you did, you have more restraint then me~!!!

[Miss_Dee]

I think it will be less disappointing for me to just wait for AF to arrive rather than test and get a BFN. Then i will wonder, "maybe its wrong" if i have to wait another week for AF to show.

That's exactly why I haven't done a test yet. I kinda get my hopes up when I do a test and then get disappointed.

All the encouragement to do a test though is making it harder to wait I haven't mentioned it to DP yet cause I don't want to get his hopes up for nothing too. Might have a talk to him tonight though and then do a test in the morning.

[Brianna]

I am right there with you, it's so tempting and then I think no I will wait a bit longer and see what happens, it is enough to drive a person insane LOL

[Miss_Dee]

I'm a sad panda. Just POAS and it was BFN!

I've never been this disappointed before. I think cause before I was pretty sure I wasn't, but this time I really had a feeling I was. Guess AF is just a little late to the party.

[CQuin]

BFN for me too
I'm not surprised, but very disappointed. Took a test when I got home from work. Of course i straight away Google how common a false negative is! I didnt use morning urine, but the test said it wasnt necessary as AF was due yesterday.
This sucks...

[Miss_Dee]

*hugs*

This really blows. I'm actually surprised at how sad I am right now. I think there has just been so much baby talk recently with my friends (one of whom is 5 months PG with her first - after less than 2 months of TTC) as they all know DP and I are TTC, so it's all I've been thinking about. Not to mention that I thought it was happening this time. I've been really tired for no reason, I'm constantly hungry, craving savory foods when I normally prefer sweet and I've had heartburn which very rarely happens (my sister also rarely gets heartburn but had it her entire PG).

I feel silly being so bummed. There are couples who have been TTC for so long, I feel selfish being bummed after only a few months. But I just can't stop thinking about my friend I mentioned earlier, or another friend who fell PG with her fourth when her third was only 3 months old, or my sister who wasn't even trying or my friends sister who not only has 2 boys but has also terminated at least 5 PG that I know of and she didn't try for a single one of them. Makes me feel like less of a woman almost cause it hasn't happened yet.

Just having a woe is me moment I guess.

[meow]

Sorry to hear

I found the waiting while TTC my first really hard. Sure, you haven't been LTTTC so I know you feel like you shouldn't complain but there are so many unknowns there. It's okay to be sad and frustrated for a bit

[ladybirdflies]

Testing with the morning urine can give you a positive result before the night one will. I would test first thing this morning and see how you go. Making babies and watching the world have babies can add so much pressure to what can be a joyous loving time for you and your partner. When you find all those thoughts coming in, try and bring yourself back to your heart and all the reasons why you are trying to have a baby and the big one is LOVE!

[CQuin]

I was very tempted to test first thing this morning. But today I have a funeral and i dont want to be even more bummed (also dont wanna be estatic at a funeral!) Will wait a little longer and try to keep my mind off it.

[Miss_Dee]

I hope the funeral went ok CQuin. I can totally understand not wanting to test today.

Might do a test in the morning just in case.

[CQuin]

Still no AF. Been going to the toilet more than usually, just to check! Might wait a week (if i can) and if no AF will POAS again, but in the morning this time!

[Miss_Dee]

Another BFN this morning and still no AF. Will give it a week or so and if AF hasn't arrived, I'll go to the doctor to see if there's something else that's wrong.