i fell preg (deliberately - through frozen embryo transfer after years of IVF) when DS was 10 months old. the worst part of the first three months was not being able to feed him his dinner etc because one look at his mush and I'd be hurling! and then he'd cry and get really upset

but we moved interstate so the first trimester flew by for us and I coped a lot better this time round than with DS, despite being sicker. You just do what you have to.

But now i'm 25 weeks and its hard. he wants to climb on me and have me lift him and it's just so hard for me. I can't clean up his toys all off the ground cos it kills my back etc my belly is really big so that gets in the way too. The housework has gone downhil big time cos i'm tired.

However, I don't feel DS doesn't get my attention. He's nearly 15 months (will be 18 months when bub arrives) and can play on his own a lot. He's been walking for a few months now so i don't need to supervise him as much etc so I do get the lay on teh lounge and just watch him play iykwim.

I think it would be a little tougher if he was only just starting to move and get into everything he shouldn't ...

Anyhoo, what i'm trying to say is go for it. You won't 'neglect' your first, you'll just make it work for you. And if you are going to have another, your DS is going to have to get used to him not always being the centre of mummy's attention iykwim. And the fact your DH is a great support - well that'll make the world of difference.!!!

good luck with it