TTC & Gender Swaying

[Tanya]

That is wonderful! Your girls are going to LOVE each other And yeah your 12 week scan pic was very girlie.
Congrats Jen!!

[minimatron]

Congratulations Jen. Youre going to love it. My 2 ealdest love each other and play so well morst of the time.... as for thier little sister, they adore her and cant wait for her to start crawling so they can all get into mischief! Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy x o

[Cherished]

Congrats Jen bummer your swaying didn't work but at least you tried as you said. I think that's what it's about really, giving it your best shot and whatever will be will be

[Jennifer13]

Thanks girls. Y'know, I'm kinda looking at it like this, whatever we did to sway for a boy, while it didn't give us a boy, it worked to get us pg first time we tried. So that is a good thing in itself! All the effort we put into getting ourselves in shape for those short-lived boy sperm obviously gave us the best possible chance of conceiving this baby. And I just know this baby is meant to be here, regardless of it's gender. The way it all worked out, with DP finally agreeing to try, the timing, everything just tells me we were always meant to have THIS child in our family.

That makes this baby special to us!

[LionsandBears]

hi all

I'm interested in finding more about gender swaying. We're not trying at the moment, but I was wondering how long you need to be on a specific diet for it to help?
I'm not really fussed about gender, we just want a healthy, living baby. However, as both our boys were sick I wonder if trying for a girl might give us a better chance of a live baby. There's no logic behind that at all, just fear.

Both boys were conceived DTD O-1 or O-2. The Chinese Gender prediction thingy was 50% correct - right with DS1, incorrect with DS2, so I'm not going to bank on that at all.

Where does one order PH strips? Does working with a naturopath help at all? I've already talked to my acupunture man about it but he just laughed. He said if acu could help with gender selection, he'd be back working in China, making a fortune. He is helping me balance my hormones though, so I can be healthier.

I'm already taking loads of supplements - Vit D, magnesium, a mixed pre-natal, B6, fish oil & stuff for anxiety/grief.

I don't want to stress too much about it at all, but I figure if I can give a bit of a lean towards girl then it won't hurt.

[megs]

Hi Tashybabe,

I may not be the best one for advice as I am currently pregnant with my 4th boy, I tried to gender sway for the last 2 but well my attempts weren't great which I don't think helped. I'm sure there will be others on line to help but there are 2 methods, which look at the timing of ovulation and also trying to make yourself and DH more acidic as this type on environment favours girl sperm.

Some of the things are Cranberry juice/supplements, lots of calcium and magnesium, I was told that taking vitamin B6 favoured boy sperm but unfortuantely I had to take it because otherwise my cycles were too short. The other thing is the cut off they say to aim around 3 days before ovulation, before there is too much CM as this is akaline. But that can be hard as you need to be spot on with your cycle and ovulation and plus you can just miss the egg. I think with this baby I ovulated about 4 days early as it is the only explanation.

I'm sorry I don't have time to write more down I have sick kids at the moment but I will check back through some of my things and get back to you.

On the PH strips I got mine from Ebay from memory

[LionsandBears]

Thanks megs

I'm taking B6 because my LP is traditionally short and I want to improve things there. I refuse to "take" anything apart from pre-natals in a future pregnancies. I used progesterone supplementation with both boys but won't do that in future (I'd rather have an early mc than go through another late loss, if there's anything worng with the baby). So I want to get things better beforehand, which the acupunture is also helping with.

I usually O around CD14-16, so maybe we DTD CD12 and then leave it. I'm charting just to see how things are going atm.

Is there anything the man should be doing to help make girl sperm?

[megs]

My DH took cranberry tablets because he couldn't handle the drink, he also had to try and get his PH levels down, I will get the numbers for you can't remember off the top of my head.

[nickers]

Im prob not a good example as our girl sway hasnt worked.
we found out a few weeks ago that bub is a boy. I was quiet emotional at first, still be a bit at times but i have realised that when we decided to ttc we knew if even after doing a sway we had a boy it was always meant to be!
things we did were:
got our ph's low. Mine was very low, dh's well i didnt pay as close attention too which was difficult because he went o/s 3wks before ttc. He didnt take all the cranberry tabs i gave to him, but on the positive side he was in asia so the weather was hot & sticky for 3 wks which i thought may have helped.
originally we tried the 2-3 day cut off but that didnt work for 3 months so the 4th month trying (which was actually the first month back of trying after a 4month break) we dtd for about 5 days leading to O up until the day before O. so obviously the boy sperm was too quick for the girl!

looking back now i can see the things we cpould have done differently, but we also were not willing to do the extreme stuff.

and as for all the charts, lunar calender, jonas method, moon signs, etc are all being tossed out..... we couldnt have been in a more GIRL environment according to all of this, so i def dont beleive in this stuff now!! i had fully worked out the position of the moon when i was born, to when it would be when ttc apparently when the moon lines up to the same as when u were born is your best chance of conceiving, then if they align with your actually cycle its even more so, well it was true for the conceiving part as my moon alignment was bang on ovulation, but it was in a girl sign not a boy sign.

[Jennifer13]

hi all

I'm interested in finding more about gender swaying. We're not trying at the moment, but I was wondering how long you need to be on a specific diet for it to help?
I'm not really fussed about gender, we just want a healthy, living baby. However, as both our boys were sick I wonder if trying for a girl might give us a better chance of a live baby. There's no logic behind that at all, just fear.

Both boys were conceived DTD O-1 or O-2. The Chinese Gender prediction thingy was 50% correct - right with DS1, incorrect with DS2, so I'm not going to bank on that at all.

Where does one order PH strips? Does working with a naturopath help at all? I've already talked to my acupunture man about it but he just laughed. He said if acu could help with gender selection, he'd be back working in China, making a fortune. He is helping me balance my hormones though, so I can be healthier.

I'm already taking loads of supplements - Vit D, magnesium, a mixed pre-natal, B6, fish oil & stuff for anxiety/grief.

I don't want to stress too much about it at all, but I figure if I can give a bit of a lean towards girl then it won't hurt.

Hi L&B, we were swaying for a boy but clearly that didn't work!

Without altering anything, I'd end up with half a dozen girls naturally, I'm sure of it. My normal diet and pH strongly favours girls. Before swaying I didn't eat much of anything in the boy diet, for starters! I'm inclined to think there's a genetic component in our case, boys are a rarity in my generation and amongst our children (0 of 8, 2 of 8).

For timing, we DTD with protection until O day this time and we got slightly caught out because I O'd early that month. I used an OPK kit which helped pinpoint O very well (couldn't be bothered temping, though I did chart other symptoms for months before TTC). We should have had a two day break, but it wasn't quite that (but we did have a quietish week). With DD1 we had a very active couple of weeks before she was conceived.

GL when you decide it's time to TTC! I honestly believe that our swaying worked to get us our baby, despite the gender. We had the optimum conditions for conception in any case.

[minimatron]

nickers... congratulations on your little man. That sadness of not being able to parent a different gender is quite a raw one. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

megs- congratulations on the birth of your little man.

Jennifer- wow your pregnancy has flown by. Cant wait for your BA.

LAB- Im naturally predisposed to girls. I also think its part of dh as well. Out of all the children in my childrens generation on dhs side, theres 2 boys and last count 13 girls. I just got an internet cheapie ph tester. Interesting thing is my ph is 7 for both urine and saliva but my cm is acidic. I have been drinking acv to see if it alters things. As for what I eat.. dairy, love my milk/cheese (something thats not on the boy diet...) Good luck for when you start to ttc

AFM- well I still havent convinced dh to go for #4... but its not a flat out no! We are about to do some major renos at our place so we need to get through that. DD3 is now 13 months and usually Im UTD by now. Im not on any contraception and we are being careful, but theres only some many times you can be careful. I suppose whatever will be will be!!!

[leeloo]

Hi everyone, long time no speak! There's a few in this forum I haven't met yet so I'm looking forward to speaking with you all! I've had a crazy year and had completely put aside my gender swaying thoughts! Until now! I have 3 boys! My husband and I always said that we would attempt a girl and 4th child so that when my 3rd child turned 3 they would have a sister/brother! A 3 year old is a lot easier to handle and with 3 boys I wanted to try and make it as easy as possible for myself and my children.... If that is possible! Lol!

So I have been on my girl diet of high magnesium and calcium, and I am going to dtd for a few days after my period and then stop! I am not going to stress myself out with it all (hopefully) this time and try to be more relaxed about the whole thing! Also I'm in absolutely no rush to get pregnant so when ever it happens will be great!

I love chatting with you girls and have chatted at various stages of all of my pregnancies in various forums about various topics! I find it very helpful and a great stress reliever.... :-)

I look forward to meeting you all on my journey

Xx

[minimatron]

Jennifer- congrats on the birth of your littlest lady
Leeloo- good luck on getting that girl.
Still not sure if we are going for #4 yet....

[Jennifer13]

Thanks minimatron. We're totally in love with her! I can't believe how fast the time has gone in the last year!

Interestingly, our family trend to girls continues. Both of my sisters are pg with their first and so far one knows she is having a girl. The other finds out in six weeks.

[minimatron]

Yes... we have that happening here too. On dhs side all girls, although his older brother is expecting a boy after 2 girls. They have a 12 year old and a 9 year old. Im wondering if a bigger gap may help? And on my side one of my brothers is having a girl.

I think its kind of funny! Mum tried and tried for a girl after me and she got 5 more boys.... now shes expecting her 4th granddaughter and is hoping to have a grandson one day!

Im always getting mixed messages from dh about #4..... he confuses me! I think once we do our big reno and Amy has started sleeping properly we will then really decide. Im 37 in October and would idealy like to finish up sooner rather than later!

[minimatron]

Ok so my update... dh has been talking about trying for a boy, asking lots of questions about swaying. He has said if it was guarenteed a boy he would go for #4, but I just keep saying I cant guarentee anything, but Im happy to give it a go! So I will need to start changing my diet properly if Im going to do this. I think we will wait til our renos are done when we start ttc, so that gives me another 3-4 months to prepare. Any tips? Hope you are all well

[Jennifer13]

I did the boy swaying thing with diet, timing, etc and clearly didn't get something right! I followed the tips from on here. Tanya is the boy swaying expert.

[*Ash*]

I can't help with boy diet- but I do have 2 boys. I know that they were conceived very close to O. I have
a DD who was conceived when we DTD on day 10 (and I O'ed on day 14).
I am days away (hours maybe? ) from birthing my 4th child. We swayed for a girl- I guess we will know soon. We DTD on CD10, and I got a positive OPK on day 13. I took cranberry tabs and Mag/Cal tabs in the weeks/months leading up to conception. I didn't make massive changes to my diet- I am an ethical vego, so there are foods that I was definitely not going to eat. I did check the PH level of my CM every month- and it was in the acidic range, but not as acidic as it could have been. I never checked DH's acidity level.
Whatever will be will be- my DD and DS1 want a sister; DS2 wants a 'baby brother'. Someone will be happy either way! And of course, DH and I will love our bub fiercely, regardless.