everyone has an opinion - but they should all just shuddup! the only opinions that count are your and your DP - and a doctor if you have a medical condition that might impact you (as is rachel's situation)

i wouldn't tell anyone anything. we're planning on "not taking preventative action" after the gremlin is born - it has taken us a long time to get here, but i've been told that PCOS sufferers are most fertile in the 12months after giving birth, so once we're up to DTD, i guess you could say we'll be TTC - and it is NO ONE's business but hours (well, again, unless i have a medical reason to not ttc at that time)

just do what is right for YOU - and ignore everyone else