I gave birth to my first baby a little over 6 weeks ago, he took us over 3 years to conceive! We are incredibly happy we got to have this baby but my heart is still aching for another. I was told a long time ago I most likely wouldn't be able to have children naturally, so as you can imagine, our little boy came as a sweet surprise!
I always wanted 2 or 3 kids, and I don't want our LO to be an only child.. Call me crazy, but I'm ready to go again! Everyone says after birth you are incredibly fertile, I want to use that haha my fear is another 3 years or more trying... my biggest is fear is never having another..
Is it silly to start trying again so soon? I really don't know what to do.. I don't want my heart to take over my brain and end up making the wrong decision. What would you do? Can anyone offer some words of wisdom....
After my first i was the same as you, i was ready to go again by the time she was a couple of months old. I think you would be wise to be sure your gp says you are healthy enough, have all the relevant checks, pap smear etc if you are due to have one. Try not to get too obsessive about trying to conceive though, soak up every inch of the gorgeous baby you have right now so you dont have regrets that you missed it because you might have been preoccupied with trying to conceive.
thank you for your comment! that's the other thing that bothers me - missing out on precious one-on-one time with my little boy.. my partner wants to just "see what happens" when we do DTD haha which I am ok with, but there is still the worry of missing our opportunity now, considering you never know what the future holds xx
Hey I was already in a TTC thread before my cycle has even returned at 5 weeks. Lol. But it took 4 years and multiple IVF cycles, so I guess I was/am thinking that if it happens naturally, great, but if it doesn't, I can already say I have been trying for well over 12 kaths by the time ewe need to look at intervention again.
If it feels right, then go for it.
I must admit though, it was almost easier with the newborn than it has been since DD has been 4 months. They don't sleep as much so you are kind of at their beck and call a lot more as they get bigger. You might change your mind anytime. That's okay too. If it took 3 years there is no guarantee anyway.
that made me giggle heehee. What a journey you went through to get your DD! Congratulations
Its a hard choice to make, my heart is like "YESS!!! DO IT NOW!!!" and my brain is like "well, hang on a moment.." and my bladder is down there going "don't do that to me again" haha
My baby boy, now almost 14 months took about 4 years from ttc to his birth. He is an IVF baby. At 6 weeks I wasnt interested in starting to conceive quite yet. I had an emergency C section and knew my body would take a while to recover. I went on the mini pill advised by my ob. I laughed at that as I had never had a BFP on my own. In June I stopped taking the pill. I'm still breastfeeding and have only had my period three times. (it does take time for your body to get back to pre pregnancy, but some people have AF back quicker). The last few months we haven't used any contraceptives, with the idea of trying on our own, if it happens it happens, if not we'd go back to IVF mid next year. You can imagine our surprise when my period was 1 day late yesterday and I got the clearest ever BFP!!! So miracles can happen! Sorry for the long essay, just wanted to share! I'd say let your body heal a bit more. Some say it takes up to 18 months for your body to recover. And having 2 babies under 1 would be quite full on. But people deal with it and if it happens, it happens!
Unsure of what to do! Please help
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