Hi -

I am new to this, but thought it might help. I just finished my first cycle of IUI and was sure that it had taken, only to get my period this morning. It's just so upsetting....

My husband and I had been trying naturally for 2 years, and finally decided to try alternatives. I am 40 he is 51.

I want to stay positive and believe that all will happen in due time, but the tears just come and every month that my period comes, it just seems that all efforts don't work. For the holiday season, I skipped both drinking ( I have wine on occasion) and exercising...to give my body a break and ensure that I was "taking it easy" as the doctor recommends. Only to now find myself depressed, feeling a bit out of shape...and back to the same..

I had promised myself that at the beginning of the journey, I would not become "obsessed", but how could you not, when you want to start a family so bad, and nothing you do works? I have waited, because I wanted the right person, now he is in my life...and I am ready to be a mother, but the stars don't align.

I am sure many of you can relate to how I am feeling. I would love to hear your prespective.

Sad in NY.