i don't think it's selfish at all. but i'm not going to lie, it's hard work, especially in the toddler years. but the relationship the kids has is really beautiful to watch.
my body didn't handle it very well, i suffered very bad depression and anxiety as a result of no iron after dd was born, and have yet to lose any weight. but i'm still happy we did it the way we did.
good luck xo
Wow everyone! Thankyou soo much for all your posts. I can't reply individually but I have read them all so thankyou.
Thankyou for those that commented regarding the relationships between siblings when they are close together in age being enhanced as they grow up toegether. That is what DH and I expected...
And those that commented on it being hard work- we totally expect that too and figure while we are up changing nappies, juggling feeds etc we might as well keep going.
Also on the physical side of giving birth- thanks Tenibear for your comments and Boobaloo- just wondering if you knew you had an iron issue during or after birth?
Oh, and Chessel monster- I have had 2 AF's out of the 4 months- I completely forgot one needs AF back before TTC whoops...LOL..
completely up to you and what suits your family, i would have thought! i'm the eldest of 6 kids in 9 years, 13 mths between myself and next brother, then all pretty close. we were close growing up, and all very close as adults. I had hoped for my chn to be around 18mths apart but didn't work out that way. i'm not sure why bringing a new life into the world is selfish, but i get that sometimes when i talk about ttc #3
Agreed with everyone else! Mine are 17 mths apart, love each other dearly and I can see already how close they will be as they get older and what great friends they are. Do what is right for you and stuff what everyone else thinks
my iron was in the low end of the normal range during pregnancy, i had taked iron tablets but they made me vomit even more so i stopped. about 10 weeks after dd was born, i noticed i was really tired, then started having panic attacks / getting depressed, when they did blood tests they found that my iron level was 8 (the lowest you can be and 'survive' is 50), so mine dropped very significantly, very quickly. i did have c/s though, and my period started straight away as i couldn't bf dd. but it is something that you can easily keep on top of during your pregnancy, and request that it gets checked at your 6 week post-birth appt.
I did have probs with my iron during my pregnancy- something I am trying to keep up on now..Its amazing how much it impacts on our physical/mental wellbeing well something soo small is out of wack!
there is 19 months between ds1 & ds2, i was roughly a few weeks pregnate on his first birthday, if df had it his way we would have been trying when ds1 was 2 weeks old (thats when he asked for another!) there will be 13 months between dd and bub no4, she was 5 months old when we found out we were having another. if everything worked out to the "plan" we had, we would only just be thinking of trying for no 3! my dads family are all for it, more the merrier is most of there view points! my grandparents had 12, so big family and grandma never shows favourites towards any of them, nor dose she to any of the now 30+grand and great grand kids!
my mum on the other hand still hasnt warmed to the idea of new bub, she was trying to convince me to get rid of, but didnt mention it once i told her were to stick that thought!!
the boys do have there days, like today were they cant be in the same room, but generaly get along great, now ds2 seems to be getting out of the "horrible 2's & 3's" they have alot more sit down and play times then they have had so im hoping that it keeps up!!
ive got bad iron aswell, apparently my body has trouble absorbing it, but with the right supliments you can always keep on top of it best you can!
good luck with it all, and if you both want another, then poo to your mum! she had her kids, the least she can do is let you have yours!
gees some people need to keep their opinions to themselves don't they?
Selfish or not, it matters none to anyone except you and DH. babe, sometimes our families don't think about the full effects of what they say.
We started TTC our #2 when DD was 6months old.....sadly after a loss at 12 weeks some 18months later it then took another 2 cycles to get DS.
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