So, as I've been gloating for pretty much forever, we're going to Japan after Christmas for three weeks. Yay. As some also know, I've had a molar pregnancy this year and have had to wait to start TTC again. My next blood test is in early December. It's officially my second last, but as I'll be in Japan for the day I should have the last one, the clinic are happy for me to blow it off.
SO... with those dates, and my cycle where it is, we could start TTC now, and the next blood test would be right on O time, or a little bit after, i.e. would come up clear even if I got pg first go.
BUT would mean being early pg in Japan. No biggie really, with the possible exception of hot baths, and maybe a bit of m/s while we're there. Raw fish not such an issue as I'm veg anyway.
We have already waited so long. Part of me is really keen to get TTC again this cycle. The other part of me is so excited about Japan and would love to just enjoy it without limitations. (and maybe bring back a souvenir!)
The options:
a) start TTC now, full-on
b) hold off now, and go full-on when in Japan
c) not think about it in the slightest and take it as it comes.
I would relax, You have been through alot already and getting too anxious and putting pressure on yourself and your partner isnt what you want. Look forward to your holiday( sounds like you;ve been bragging lol ) and make love whenever you can.
my son was a suprise, although very much wanted he came at the right time.... you can plan a preganancy but thats not as much fun as feeling sick and thinking you ate some bad food in Japan... then when you get home you could have a little suprise...
I'd tend towards C. But maybe B....guess it depends how likely it is to "rule" your thoughts. Can you let go and relax if you're ttc? Don't let it interfere with your lovely holiday.
As an aside, we're doing C - off to NZ next month then IVF early next year so technically TTC in the mean time but no expectation of success.
I don't know if I am honestly capable of C. I can't not know where in my cycle I am, it will always be on my mind! But I am thinking it might be the best way to go...
Ok from my personal experience I would go option b)
With DD1 we were heading off on a round the world trip and were going to TTC while we were away however we had a lapse and dtd once before heading off.... half way through the trip I got a BFP and while it was wonderful I did have to do Eastern Europe alcohol-free
With DD2 we started TTC while on holiday (yes we managed to control ourselves second time around ) and got the BFP the day I had to go back to work - it meant that I didn't hold back on holidays and it made going back to work easier armed with that special knowledge.
Like you, there is no way I would be able to not know where I was up to in my cycle... I choose B
Wait til you get there and then just try and let it happen without stressing / over analysing it - because that's so easy to do while you're TTC I know!!!
So excited to hear that you're going to start again hun!!!
Nai - thanks so much. That is really helpful. Eastern Europe alcohol free is quite the achievement!
I have no idea what DH will want to do. Last time round we went out for one last drink, my choice of venue, my choice of drink, and then we started from there. Might do the same thing now, either way, start getting ready for it!
I can't believe this time is rolling around already. When we were first told we had to wait it seemed like such a sentence. It really hasn't been so bad. (can all please kindly NOT link to all my "I can't do this" threads?!)
Snugglybean we had the same dilemma a couple of months ago, as we were off to Bali. We decided to hold off TTC before Bali, simply because of morning sickness, different foods, & alcohol etc. Then we had a great time in Bali baby makin lol. So I am all for holding off and TTC while over there, also it depends when do you ovulate, will you be due for ovulation while in Japan? Gawd I'd love to go to Japan lucky you.
Due for ovulation on our wedding anniverary which is when we're in one of the most romantic parts we'll visit over the whole trip.
Have hardly seen DH this week, so no chance to talk it over, but I think we'll not be at all careful before we go, but aim to TTC over there.
So I got to talk to DH about it... he was so indecisive! I got "I'm happy either way" and "I love you regardless" but then I sort of caught him and just said "start now, or start later?" He said now, so I think we'll go with that plan of being a bit un-careful before we leave, and then really going for it when we're there.
Happy with that.
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As some also know, I've had a molar pregnancy this year and have had to wait to start TTC again. My next blood test is in early December. It's officially my second last, but as I'll be in Japan for the day I should have the last one, the clinic are happy for me to blow it off.
) and got the BFP the day I had to go back to work - it meant that I didn't hold back on holidays and it made going back to work easier armed with that special knowledge.
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