When is the right time to seek medical advice?

[AndiE]

When is the right time to seek medical help to conceive.

I needed clomid to conceive DS1 as I wasn't ovulating properly (fortunately fell pg on second cycle of clomid), then DS2 was conceived naturally (an oopsie) when DS1 was 12 months and still BFd.

I currently BF DS2 (14 months) twice daily and my cycle seems to be out of whack once again. Only one AF (5 weeks ago) and little sign of ovulation (except for O'ing 6 days before AF, which obviously doesn't bode too well ).

Given DS1 was conceived easily with the help of clomid, and DS2 was natural - do you think I just need to be a bit more patient in our TTC #3 quest. My gut tells me to be patient a bit longer, maybe even wean DS2, then see what happens. But those annoying little TTC voices in my head say "you're 39 in December, your fertility is declining etc". Not that this is the be-all and end-all of why you do/don't conceive but I'm within a healthy BMI range and lead an active, healthy lifestyle.

I'm blessed to have my two boys, but I don't feel like my baby days are over yet, and DH is happy to have a third and final child. Sigh, I'd forgotten what a headache this TTC business is. Give me an oopsie any day

[nothing2lose]

Hi Andie

As someone who is just a little older than you, I would be going to see a fertility specialist TODAY!! (tomorrow would probably suffice though )

The rule of thumb is if you are 35 and have been trying for more than 6 months you should seek medical advice. At 38/39 there really is no time to waste.

Sorry, I dont mean to sound alarmist but I really wish I had gone to the FS five years ago.

I wish you well whatever you decide x

n2l

[AndiE]

Thanks N2L - appreciate your thoughts.

[Reet]

Hi From what i have heard ur cycles can be a bit out of whack when b/f still so if ur ready too maybe try weaning DS and see if ur cycles become more normal? If u do see a FS and go on clomid do u know if ur allowed to bf still whilst taking it?

[AndiE]

Hi Reet, not sure but I suspect clomid and BFing don't mix. I guess one thing in my favour is I've conceived twice and had two healthy pregnancies - fingers x it'll be third time lucky too.