David - I have found the first part of your book invaluble at this point in my journey.

Dh just submitted his swimmers for testing and we have been off BCP for 11mths now.
I have worried about TTC for the last 6-8mths, and suddenly I have stopped worrying. I did think I could control it all and realised that everything I did was planned around "what if I'm pg"? The relief I feel at being able to plan things like holidays and buying household furniture irrespective of if bub comes, its indescribable. My point is though, that no matter what any one said or what I read, I had to get through the messy phase and accept that its out of my control. So I go back to worrying abut what i can control.
I also have to go through the testing phase for myself, I need to rule out what may be wrong or hindering the process.
My DH and I sat and talked last week and we agreed on a plan...
We'll try naturally (as long as its feasible physcially to get pg) until I am 35 (4yrs away). At 35 we will start adoption paperwork and if I get pg after that its a bonus.
As soon as we did that, I could breathe again.
So yes, I believe its (E) response, we all have our own process for attaining something we so desperately desire.
And we all do whatever we need to to get there.