Hi

in regards to your dd being born with a cleft lip, this happens when parents are on no medication as well, so don't worry about that! My brother and I are close together and I have many friends that have children close together, and well it has pros and cons (from what I can see), as does any situation. Personally I say; if you both want to, then do it! And you will be there for your DD (when she has her op) whether you are pg or not, being pg will always put a smile on your face, and having 2 beautiful children at the end of it, well that is even a bigger smile!

either decision you choose!