Just wondering if anyone can give me some advice?? I'm 24 and my husband is 30. I came off the pill about 8 months ago, and my cycle has been a bit irregular, the first few months they were long the last one was 35 days. We have been having frequent unprotected sex for 4 cycles now and not pregnant.. I'm starting to get worried, do you think there is something wrong?
Sorry if this is a silly question, very new to all of this!
It's not a silly question There is no such thing. I read somewhere recently that 90% of young couples fall pregnant within the first year of trying (provided fertility etc is normal, which at this stage you can assume it is) - I think it's best to relax as much as possible, enjoy the sex (don't feel pressured every time you DTD to think 'could this be the time?') and let your body get into the groove. If you're really concerned, talk to your GP, but I've had plenty of friends in their 20's told by their docs to give themselves a year of trying before they start getting too concerned.
Good luck with it - I hope it happens for you soon x
Are you charting your cycle? It can really help, so that you know when you're ovulating. Believe it or not, not everybody is fertile right on day 14, as many will tell you! There's plenty of good sites around that you can use to chart and help you interpret the patterns that you see.
There's probably nothing wrong, but if there is something wrong, having your chart to show to your doc will definitely help.
Hey Lauren...definately not a silly question. When I first started ttc our first baby, I came off the pill and expected to fall pregnant straight away....well that put high expectations on straight off the bat. I didnt and I agonised over it for the months to come. We eventually went and did our over seas trip and decided that it wouldnt be good to fall then because we were doing a contiki tour and drinking copious amounts of alcohol. Fortunately I didnt fall then, but when we came back and a good 7 kgs heavier, I decided to go on a diet and not worry too much about trying....so what happened? I fell pregnant! It took 9 months all up. I think for me personally, it was about relaxing and not obsessing (although that can be very hard and I still obsess trying for #3). I suppose it just take time and when I went to the dr about it he said if nothing happens after 12 months of actively trying then to come have a chat. All the best with it,
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Thank you for the advice, one thing I should add though is that I once had chlamydia about 2 years ago, I'm not sure if it had developed into PID. This stresses me out a lot, as the partner I caught it from I had been with for quite some time so I don't know how long I had chlamydia for. The doctor who diagnosed it didn't seem too concerned about PID but now that I've read more about it I'm wondering if she should have been..
So I'm stressed that this has something to do with not getting pregnant, do you think this would be enough of a reason to see a doctor earlier?
Thanks again
I think the main thing is to put your mind at ease. You are clearly stressing about this and I suspect that no matter what advice you come across here, none of that will deal with your personal situation.
So I would suggest going to a doctor that you feel comfortable with and discussing all of this with them. It's likely that they won't go down the path of discussing fertility treatment until you have been TTC for 12 months but it can be good to rule out a few things (like your PID concerns) and get a general check up.
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There is no such thing. I read somewhere recently that 90% of young couples fall pregnant within the first year of trying (provided fertility etc is normal, which at this stage you can assume it is) - I think it's best to relax as much as possible, enjoy the sex (don't feel pressured every time you DTD to think 'could this be the time?') and let your body get into the groove. If you're really concerned, talk to your GP, but I've had plenty of friends in their 20's told by their docs to give themselves a year of trying before they start getting too concerned.
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