I've struggled with this also.

I've been TTC #2 for a while now and opted not to TTC last March for this exact reason. Don't know what I'll do this time around because I'm sick of TTC and will do anything to get our BFP. I also used to go out with a guy whose b'day was xmas day and he hated it...it was never a special thing to him which I think is sad, but that can really be managed by how the family handles/manages it. (BTW, with our DD, she was conceived first go!)

I read a thread some time ago about people who had kids with b'days in December and there was a few stories mainly about kids getting one present instead of 2, not being able to have a proper b'day party because everyone is doing family stuff etc.

That said, I totally agree with everything Briggsy's Girl has said. You can't control everything and you could go early/late and still end up with a Xmas bub. A friends bub was due 28th Dec and she had it 8th Dec instead.

Have fun TTC - hope it's a short journey for you.