Dd1 has a bf. My parents are having a fit.

[Chocaholic]

Personally I think that you are handling it perfectly. Your daughter felt comfortable enough to tell you about her first ever boyfriend. That is a big deal.

I would ignore any "well-meaning" advice from family, especially since it has caused you so much angst in the past.

Your instincts sound spot on. Keep raising a beautiful, healthy and happy girl who is confident in herself and knows she can trust her mum.

[Trillian]

Your parents need to back off. She's not their child and I think you're doing the best you can to handle it. Honestly, I would be worried about the boarding hostel though - they aren't supervised as much as you think they are. But that said, it's not going to matter where they are, if they want to actually *do* anything, they will find a way to do it. They rae young and it's likely to end of it's own accord if everyone (ie your parents ) just calms the hell down and backs off. You know yourself that the more you speak out about it the more it will make her want to be with him.