Let's talk about sex....

[Catastrophic]

...baby lets talk about you and me... lets talk about all the goods things...

sorry couldn't help myself!

I'm not sure when that conversation is going to happen... I think I might get all you wise ones to tell me how to do it lOL

[briggsy's girl]

i remember we never had "the talk" - we were always allowed to ask questions, and they were answered in an age appropriate way - so it was never taboo. we are trying to do the same with DD. obviously we don't talk about intercourse or anything yet, but she asks about babies and where they come from, the same as she asks about everything else. we aren't embarrassed talking about sex (i guess the upside of my upbringing and her Daddy being a truckie lol).

DD is very interested in the human body - i pulled out my old uni texts, and one of them had a book with it that was the clinical view of a body (essentially a dissection of the human body) and she has taken an interest in it. we talk about the body parts and don't gloss anything over. so i guess i'm HOPING that being so open about other body stuff will mean we're about to continue it with the sex side of things. HOPING being the operative word lol

[Phteven]

IMO it starts with using the proper names for genitals when they are old enough to learn them so that they are equipped with the language to talk about sex and then when they ask the inevitable questions answering them honestly even if it is on a ski lift beside an astonished 20 something.
I would rather answer questions honestly when they arise instead of avoiding it for years then having an awkward conversation.

[Cranky Kitten]

I've always tried to be open and honest with DD about bodies and sex and everything. She asks questions freely and knows she can talk to me about pretty well anything. I do try to let her know that she shouldn't be in a hurry to grow up too quickly and that sex is best saved for somebody special. How much sinks in....time will tell.

[KimB]

I have always been open with the kids and have told them what ever they asked about. Unfortunately my DD1 probably lost her virginity at 13 or 14 after going off the rails. We are getting better at talking again now. Fingers crossed the rest of the kids don't follow the same route

[zilly]

when I was 5 I started playing leisure suit larry, and I got a pretty good idea of sex from that, and I also read a lot of books when I was 10. But at 15 my mum decided to give me the talk... which consisted off "watch out for those frenchmen, they have a snake in their pants"

[kiwidolly]

Funny thing is I've been thinking about this topic today, my 4.5yo was looking at my breasts differently to what she usually does and asked "What are they called?" I replied that they were breasts and when she was older hers would look like that. She was happy at that, but I realised that she is going to start asking questions and how I respond is going to be important. Thanks for bringing up the topic, some really good points being made!

[Phteven]

"watch out for those frenchmen, they have a snake in their pants"

Well, yes. I think it's wise to avoid people with snakes in their pants although to the best of my knowledge the French aren't any more likely to carry snakes in their pants than people of any other nationality. I would probably think the people most likely to carry reptiles in a non-traditional manner would be members of snake handling cults. I think they are mainly based in America although it's possible that they may have adherents from a number of nationalities

[Gigi]

i'm so unsure, when to have a discussion (what age? what level of understanding) about periods with my DD. She pegs up my mamma pads when they've been washed and thinks they are pretty. She doesn't understand why i use them. Have no clue when to enlighten her, or how. She's pretty cluey, so i'm sure she's made up some kind of explanation in her own mind already.

She has nightmare issues already, and is pretty sensitive, i'm hesitant to talk about bleeding with her, worried it will scare her.