I didn't grow up with either sets of grandparents and I was never angry at my parents because I didn't know any different. I still don't know any different really, I can never truly understand what it would be like to be close to grandparents cause I never had it. What you don't know won't hurt you. I think she'll be fine. It's up to you.
Mine have never met my parents and never will. They ask and I give them age appropriate information. I think this is one of those times when it's our job to make the right decision for them, and their safety even if they don't agree with us at the time.
DD & DS have lots of family that love them, even if they aren't blood related. Lots of aunts and uncles and even pseudo grandparents. I don't feel they miss out because of my choices. I think they have gained because of them.
DD has 'met' her paternal grandmother 3 times, and DS never has.
In light of recent events, they will never have contact with her because she is abusive.
When they are old enough, I will also tell them that she is 'mean'.
You have to make the decision for your little one.
Is it worth exposing her to someone who may 'turn' and become abusive or not a great influence on your child's life?
Is it better to not expose them to start with, so that this person never has to be 'taken away'?
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