Lulu2's food iss-ewes

[Pandora]

You sound exactly like a firend of mine, especially the 'things touching' part.
She is the same, can make anything for her family even if she cant eat it herself.
I dont have any answers for you as shes quite happy to not do anything about it, but I do agree with the talking to someone about it part - you bviously dont htink its trivial so noone else would either.

[Smoke Jaguar]

Oh, Lulu, this sounds almost debilitating
I never force food with DS, but DP does and it gives me the willies when he puts him on a chair far away from the table and says "you can come back if you finish your dinner"... food iss-ewes is exactly what I'm envisaging when he does that!
I would definitely recommend a counsellor who does hypnotherapy. I know a good one up the mountain You can google her and she's in the complementary therapies directory - her name is Amanda Pippos. She can do Time Line Therapy and she's a great chick, to boot. Have I led you astray with a recommendation before??
By the way, did you knock everyone dead at the wedding, so that they didn't notice you not eating? Tell me so I can tell Lisa!

[Nelle]

I'd try to talk to someone too. I've only recently started eating sausages again, because we had them so much when I was a kid! Our childhood eating certainly does have a big impact on us!

Do you think the tiny bites, not aiming to eat a whole anything, but just aiming for some tiny bites every day...would that work for you?

[feeb]

OMG i am soooooooooooooooooooo glad to hear I am not alone!!

Dh always hounds me about not eating vegies, i eat peas, corn, potaoe, caspsium (if chopped small) and onion.
Fruit i will eat green apples, oranges, green grapes.

I also dont like the texture and feeling. I will pick things out of dishes.

I will eat vegi soup if i liquidise it, will eat grated carrot in noodle box. I hate salad

I am sick of people saying well you will have to eat it so your kids do (i have a cousin who eats potatoe and salad and thats all and her youngest daughter now 20 is a vegetarian!!)

[Gigi]

Jerry Seinfield's wife came out with a book in last year or so, was on Oprah prmoting it, DECEPTIVELY DELICIOUS, the concept was, vitamise or puree vegies/fruit, adn put them in "normal" food recipes, kids will never know there are vegies/fruit in there.

maybe if you did that idea, you wouldn't have to deal with the food textures?

what do you normally eat?
after reading what it is hard for you to eat, i'm surprised you're not anorexic or something. THis must be really hard for you. Food is such a basic part of life, and often very enjoyable. My MIL has reflux and cannot get many foods down her, is now dangerously thin due to that, inability to eat is really serious.

i agree with getting help/hypnotherapy about the anxiety.


good luck Lulu2, this is a tough one, i hope you can beat it

[mrsmac]

My brother as a kid couldn't eat any meats cause he couldn't stand the texture, dad used to be there force feeding him and david would be choking and gagging it was awful. He still won't eat red meat and heaps of vegies, he says he's not a vegetarian just really fussy! cause for him its not about the meat its the texture etc- he won't eat tomatoes, onions, mushrooms and many other vegies either. I don't know how his wife copes!

[Lucy]

Lulu,

Sweet girl, I agree with the idea of seeing someone about it. I see a phychologist in relation to my food "issues" and OMG it helped me no end! Some weird old crappola came up, & my phychologist uses EMDR (Google it!), which was a spin out initially, but it was really effective on me. It has really liberated me.

Worth getting a referral from your GP on the Mental health Plan, then you can get 12 visits to a phychologist for free.....I don't envisage you would need this many visits, but for me personally I think it is a worthwhile investment of time and energy........

Good luck babe..............xxxx

[Lulu]

Thanks for your input everyone!

Gigi - gawd I'm far from anorexic! The foods I do can eat are s l o w l y expanding, but I can certainly put it away when I can eat something. I made sure never to miss out on the other food groups - chip, chocolate and lollies....so I actually need to lose a little bit of weight, its all bad fats that cause it and because I'm starting to excercise my appetite will go through the roof.
I was studying Nautropathy and thought I'd become a Nutritionist instead. I'm very aware of whats good and bad (our class lost 25 kilos in about 2 weeks after we started!) and up until a few years ago the things I did eat were as 'good' as I could manage. I didn't even have chips or soft drink in the house, let alone lollies (choccy I can't give up), no processed foods or white bread but stupid Dp has no respect for that and now my house is filled with his crap and easily available...it all goes TODAY.
It seemed absurd at the time that I could be a Nutritionist that couldn't eat the foods I would recommend... So I didn't follow through.

Lucy - I will certainly do that ASAP, its a pity that I can only do things that cost nada right now, I didn't think there would be anything available!

Maya - thanks I'd love to get Hypnotherapy but I is toooo broke . Tell Lisa indeed I knocked them dead! Pity the photos disappeared off the PC , but Beth was given a tiny little girl version of the same dress so we are going to frock up again and take some more pictures!

Thanks again ladies - Feeb, glad theres another retard like me out there