I "get" that Rory Alot of what you mentioned is true... although regarding the "reponsibility" factor I know quite a few women like myself who have thyroid (metabolism) issues which is hard to take responsibility for. I'm a "lucky" one in that I have an over active thyroid (meaning that periodically my metabolism speeds up too much = rapid weight loss). But there are women who have the opposite, a slow functioning thyroid. From what I have read these women REALLY struggle to lose weight no matter how good their diet is. On a side note I really recommend a thyroid test if you feel that this could apply to you. I have also read that post natally 1 in 10 women suffer from a thyroid condition... and often it is misdiagnosed. It can be mood altering too so imagine being in the situation where your weight problem is due to a medical reason beyond your control and yet being told to be accountable for that. Although I do also agree that there are many women who DO need to address their diet... deal with the sugar addiction or whatever... and take responsibility for their food choices. I think though that the first step should be to see your doctor and get the facts. You have to know what you are dealing with.