Can you teach yourself how to be a 'neat freak'?

[turtleschell]

omg TINKS pmsl!!!

I am not a neat freak, but I often invite people over and my house suddenly gleams before they arrive.

[Stevie]

i guess i must have exaggerated when i said i want to be a "neat freak" lol, i dont mind mess and being generally untidy sometimes, just certain things that NEED to be done i always find im too lazy to do (sweep/mop floors, clean bathroom, dusting) and its more on the hygeine side of things that i worry not so much that i want it to be clean for someone else.
I will be having a look at the flylady (?) thing that you ladies have mentioned, i will also ne taking some of all your suggestions and try to work it into my day

I dont think that im a 'housewife' and thats what i SHOULD be doing, cozx for one im not a housewife, i work too so i cant be expected to do eveything lol, but if i didnt work id be more worried about spending quality time with DD and with DH when he's home.