Domestic Blisssssssss

[Mrs Jak]

I missed it!!

It's great if it was about celebrating a woman's choice or her enjoyment to be a SAHM, but not if it put it up against those who choose to or have to go back to work. The great thing about the time we live in is that we have choices now.

I know there is sometimes a feeling in society these days that women are almost expected to go back to work and not stay home more than a year. I'm hoping to stay home as long as I can, but in these times you just never know and I may choose to go back to my workplace in a PT or casual capacity for enjoyment and/or income. I'm not a 'domestic goddess' by any means, but I'm trying I'm not a huge fan of cooking!

Again, in this household there is no such thing as 'women's work'. DH helps out where and when he can and is a great cook. (Thank God)

As for a husband (or wife, I guess) who expects this and that and only allows a certain amount of 'pocket money'. There is no way I could live like that, but I guess if you have a happy marriage and it's working, then good on you.

[Roryrory]

If anyone is keen to read the transcript of the show you can do so on the 60 minutes website - it only takes about 5 minutes.....

[Nadine216]

I would love to read the transcript ... I can't find the website though

[Olive]

nadine google 60 minutes then click on stories

i cant post the link as it has links to commercial sites!

[Rouge]

Transcript is great but the tones and inflections of those interviewed are important to so make sure you watch the video

[Nadine216]

I just watched the video

Okay...I am rambling....I AM SO DARN HAPPY! Who's with me??????

Good for you, no GREAT for you I'm happy for you and what you are doing is good, great, fabs ... for you.

I love working, I love my kids, but I love working too. And atm I am handling it, juggeling it .. sort of

I find the video being a bit too extreme to both sides. The older lady's views are TOO feministic (for my taste) and the "housewives" are TOO housy ... for my personal taste. This coming from a woman who just resently started knitting/sewing and cooking - hipocrite!!! I believe in balance, but I'm me. I'm not anybody else. I don't think bad about the SAHM that love what they are doing, they like it. I don't think bad about the careerwife that "has it all" , she likes it. Thank heavens we are all different ppl. But as humans not judging is darn hard and I believe that is where we get our problems, our "my choice is better than your choice" tiffs. And that is what this is ... a personal choice.

I have a little problem with the "HAVE IT ALL" Whose to say that what I have is enough for me, but also for the woman next to me. For some woman being a SAHM is enough, for some not. And here I so love the way RoryRory said it ... we have to support eachother as WOMEN and MOTHERS not as SAHM, WAHM, Careerwomen ... just as plain women/mothers

BTW I like the idea that modernday "50's housewives" are actually doing something like writing part-time, learning how to bake the perfect handbad cake. That is all skills that can be used once the breadwinner in the family (ie the husband) is not there anymore. That is part of the reason why I work. My husband's dad died and left his mother, a SAHM, to care for two boys and she had NO work experiance what so ever.

In a sence I like the mentality that the man is the boss of the household. BUT that is it .. he is boss of the family, not the woman/wife. He's the wife's life PARTNER. So what if I like giving my husband coffee in bed, so what if I love that my family goes out in polished shoes that I did myself, SO BLOODY WHAT!!! That is what I like, does not mean you have to like it too.

Have loads of other stuff to say too but have to take a break now

[littlelara]

You know, I watched it too, but was left feeling... awful. In fact, I would be hard pressed to think of a time when I've felt more inadequate.
I'm a sahm of two and love them dearly, but a domestic goddess I'm not. I'd love to have a gleaming house and shiny shoes for all, but honestly I struggle to get the basics done.
Actually, jordy will be starting a full day of care where his sister started a couple of months ago as of tomorrow just so I can try to get on top of things, because I feel so overwhelmed.
It's not what I'd want in a perfect world, but I know he'll be well cared for and if I can get the bulk of it out of the way... Well hopefully it will balance out and I can be a better mum.