well i guess I'm a tyrant. If it's not in the laundry basket, it don't get washed and his pockets, his responsibility. Though obviously if I can tell there's something in the pocket, I'll take it out. DP does have a habit of throwing his pants into the laundry basket without taking the belt off them so I just don't wash them until he's taken the belt off. To be fair, until very recently, it actually hurt me to stand so any extra time standing - ie. to remove a stupid belt - was painful not to mention frustrating.