Thank you ladies!
Yup over thinking and motivation are big killers here as well as starting and trying to do it all at once.. ill start with the floors then think about the bookshelf then try the girls room then the boys.... befor i know it im trying to do 50 things at once.
ill give flyladie another shot. df has said if i can get ontop of it that he will do the things i hate, like mop... at the moment i feel ready to get a skip and just chuck it ALL!