I think it can be dangerous to look at someone else's routine and then mark yourself against it ...
We're all different in terms of personality, fatigue, organisation, and preferences.
We all have different houses, families, babies, physical limits, finances, pets, and parents in law.
We have different expectations and our significant others (where we have them at all) assist to a different degree and have different expectations.
My DS sleeps well most days - so there's 2-3 hours my DH has available to do chores and uni work. If we had a baby who didn't sleep much during the day, our expectations would have to DRAMATICALLY change, as you just can't pop out for 40 minutes to mow the laws if bubs is needing to be played with.
Other people have parents, siblings or friends who help out, either by minding bub or by helping around the house.
Some people need more sleep than others, or are living with health issues, and so after a full day of playing with, looking after and running around for their family, sitting down to fold 5 loads of washing or cooking a full hot dinner just isn't going to happen.
The priority has to be the health and quality of life of the family - and that includes keeping mummy happy and healthy too.
So decide what the key needs are for your family (eg: for me, I can handle clutter - a LOT of clutter - and toys and books and shoes all over the place, but I hate it when there's actual dirt or off food, bad smells, or no clean work clothes ...) and focus on those.
For some it will be the bathroom, or crumbs on the carpet, or a cooked dinner together at night.
And figure out what EACH member of the family will be expected to do. I've had chores as long as I can recall. They were always age appropriate (eg: when I was little, it was helping unstack the dishwasher, or putting clothes in the laundry hamper, opening curtains, sweeping the porch, etc, and then as I got older, I was expected to do a full share of the cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc).
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