My DH and I have TOTALLY different expectations. He would live in a pigsty if he could with crap and mess wherever it falls. If he is the last one up at night he will often go to bed with plates and even leftover food still on the coffee table. I get so angry at the food left out.....I have spoken to him sooooo many times about cleaning up after himself but he just doesn't see it as a problem. He has started moving the dishes at night to the bench in the kitchen but cant see to put the leftover food in the bin! I have to admit his lack of interest does effect me and I tend to clean a lot less than I did because it is not appreciated and I know he wont make an effort to keep it clean. Our spare room is also our junk room and when i have enough I just collect all his mess and toss it in the room. He was away for work came back about 6wks ago....he still has his partially packed suitcase on the floor...I had enough after 3wks on the floor in our room so moved it into the spare room (he sleeps there when on night shift so knows its there) but just doesn't care.

I would love to get a house cleaner again. Our last one left after having a bad asthma attack and the Dr told her not to be around animals (we have two cats and obviously associated cat hair) and because I now work part time it just seemed to make more sense to save the money but really I think it might be worth it!