Rather Hazy,
Don't loose heart it is early days yet you are still in the process of working out what your dealing with, it is not going to resolve it's self quickly so allow yourselves some time to grieve.
My DH was totally not considering ANY other options at the time he was diagnosed, Let the counsellor thing slide for a little while my DH wouldn't consider going at first either it was quite a few weeks down the track and eventually I had to say that "I am committed to this relationship, I love you but I am worried about us/you I think we need to see a counsellor( I thought at one point that my DH was acting suicidal he had gone so far in to himself and it freaked the hell out of me) I ended up making an appointment with the counsellor contracted to my work and we went to the first session together and then DH went to the next two alone. The counsellor gave me his card and told me to call him if I was concerned about DH. But luckily we were able to move past this dark time I still get the shudders when I think of it.
I'd be trying to force myself in to hubby's appointments (I organised most of my DH's appointments at the time) I didn't give him the choice!!! this baby making thing is about the two of us reguardless of what form it takes, we married for better and for worse and far out I've had a gutfull of worse thankfully we found some better at the other end of our journey and I sooooooo hope you lovely ladies can find your way through this as well, love to you both and stay strong
as much as your DH's may think so at the moment it is not all about them!!!!
Just wanted to let you know that DH and I have a similar story. No sperm in the ejaculate, and no sperm when he had the biopsy either. He originally said - well that's ot, no children. However over time and with a good counsellor this initial decision was talked through and changed.
We've had our highs and lows, and I think that the diagnosis didn't help with DH's anxiety, however we are in a much stronger place now than we have been.
If you have the time you are quite welcome to read my blog to see what experiences we have had.
Blizz, I agree. I seem to attract pregnant people! It's so bad that my BF started killing herself laughing when I was sitting waiting for her in a coffee shop and there were two people on either side of me heavily pregnant! I hadn't even noticed!
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