Well i was lucky - i had a girlfriend offer to donate without any hesitation, i know alot of girls don't like to talk to other about the IVF thing, but for me i have been very open and honest when people ask why i don't have kids. When i tell them my story (in a positive way) most people are so willing to donate and you don't even have to ask. I have had about 3 offers of donor eggs. You can go on a waiting list but this does i am told take years and years or you can put an add in the paper or there is a magazine in Sydney that you can advertise in not sure of the name of it though but im sure with a little research on the internet you could find it. Some girls only want eggs from someone they don't know = however when you go thru counselling (and we have had many sessions of that) you are advised strongly to let the child know where they came from and not keep it a secret as they will find out one day. It was explained to us that imagine if you adopted a child and waited till they were a teenager to tell them - most kids would not take this well - it would be a huge shock to one day out of the blue you so "hey by the way you are adopted" they become resentful and don't trust you. So with this in mind i was glad i had friends offer to donate as they would be a part of the childs life and it would all be very normal it they new from day dot about their origin. Do you have any sisters that would want to donate or friends? Or maybe you don't want that and would rather someone you don't know - everyone is different in their thoughts - and what you and your DH choose is right for you. I wish you soooo much luck on this journey but it is a journey well worth it sweetie. I hope you find a donor really soon and you can get the ball rolling. There are programs for donors overseas that you can access as well.
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