That's great news...we hope everything goes well. I'm encouraged when you say that donor didn't take too long to find. I know there will be a range but how long do most couples have to wait before they find a donor?
Well i was lucky - i had a girlfriend offer to donate without any hesitation, i know alot of girls don't like to talk to other about the IVF thing, but for me i have been very open and honest when people ask why i don't have kids. When i tell them my story (in a positive way) most people are so willing to donate and you don't even have to ask. I have had about 3 offers of donor eggs. You can go on a waiting list but this does i am told take years and years or you can put an add in the paper or there is a magazine in Sydney that you can advertise in not sure of the name of it though but im sure with a little research on the internet you could find it. Some girls only want eggs from someone they don't know = however when you go thru counselling (and we have had many sessions of that) you are advised strongly to let the child know where they came from and not keep it a secret as they will find out one day. It was explained to us that imagine if you adopted a child and waited till they were a teenager to tell them - most kids would not take this well - it would be a huge shock to one day out of the blue you so "hey by the way you are adopted" they become resentful and don't trust you. So with this in mind i was glad i had friends offer to donate as they would be a part of the childs life and it would all be very normal it they new from day dot about their origin. Do you have any sisters that would want to donate or friends? Or maybe you don't want that and would rather someone you don't know - everyone is different in their thoughts - and what you and your DH choose is right for you. I wish you soooo much luck on this journey but it is a journey well worth it sweetie. I hope you find a donor really soon and you can get the ball rolling. There are programs for donors overseas that you can access as well.
Gee this has come around quickly hey. Sweetheart i am sending you every once of positive vibes i can muster up - and truckloads of :babydust: you way - i will even say a little for you - don't know how much that will help as i don't think anyone listens to me up there! lol im Irish decent so i hope the clover works.
Hi lovely ladies, thank you for your hello's. I do still drop in occasionally to see how you are all going but with nothing happening fertility wise for me at the moment I haven't had much news to post.
I'm still in the same job but thankfully things have improved - slightly! I'm not feeling as stressed as I was, my sore shoulder, although not 100% yet, has also improved AND my boss has been bearable (just - and for now!). The only problem is that I'm so exhausted - it's been such an emotionally draining few months - I feel like I could sleep for a couple of months at the moment. I thought nothing could be as draining as going through IVF but working for a psychological bully takes the cake!!!
I was supposed to be losing weight before I go back to the FS in the new year - and what have I done? Put weight on! I get annoyed at myself but then I think about what I've been through since June and try not to be too hard on myself. Having said that, it's time I get tough and start exercising and eating well again! Hopefully the warmer weather will help.
I hope you are all doing great - will catch up on personals soon. Just wanted to let you know I'm still around and thinking of you all. xoxo
Anney,thanks for the info would love to hear from you,have sent you an email.
Lissie,thank you as always for all your support and awesome advice!I loved seeing in your post that you're Irish descent...ALL THE BEST PEOPLE ARE!!!! I am originally from N.Ireland but raised in the west!
Gargy, good to see you back,hope the packing is going well.....
I am still in the process of looking into the international clinics,it's such a lot of money...I want to make sure I'm not making an impulsive emotional descision!
Right now we are considering running an ad just to see if we get any response,I know it's a long shot but you just never know unless you try right??
LuLu,wishing you all the luck and positive vibes in the world darlin....I will be praying it all goes well for you!
Donorsyd,welcome and wishing you every happiness and health for the future...you've already been through so much. If you are lucky enough to have a siter or close female relative that could donate for you that would be the way to go,or like Lissie said if you prefer not to know you could advertise for a donor or go to an international clinic here there are no waiting lists...however they are expensive.Where there's a will there's a way....Never Give Up and it will come to you!
MargOz,I haven't spoken with you before so Hi...and I can totally relate to the weight thing......so bloody hard! LOL but it's walking weather now...so let's get those trainers on!
I am feeling very overwhelmed by all my personal ivf stuff right now....my MC has brought back a lot of pain and old hurt from when I was first diagnosed with POF. I just can't stand the injustice of it all. I feel like I have a million things going around in my head at once.Am trying to get back to normal but my head is buzzing with ads and clinics and the desperation to have another child.I suppose the good thing is that I recognise all this and am very self aware......so I may put things on hold for a little while,just until i've settled a bit.I don't know if any of you guys like the "Dixie Chicks" but 2 of them had to go through ivf to fall pregnant.They wrote a song about it called "So Hard" (yeah tell us about it!!!) Anyway I crank it up in the car and I really find it helps,I can totally relate....here are some of the words:
( Felt like a given' something a woman is born to do
A natural ambition to see a reflection of me and you
And I'd feel so guilty if that was a gift I couldn't give
Would you be happy if life wasn't how we pictured it?
And sometimes i just want to wait it out to prove everybody wrong
but I need your help to be strong cuz you know it's
So hard... So hard!
It's so hard when it doesn't some easy
it's so hard when it doesn't come fast
It's so hard when it doesn't come easy...it's just so hard!)
Sending you heaps of positive vibes and strengh to help you get thru - i will have to look for that song - sometimes there just seems there is no justice in TTC and IVF but hopefully all of us will have our dreams fulfilled one day and if i had one wish i would wish that every woman that wanted a baby like us got her dream - i would give up what little we have just to have a baby in my arms. You begin to realise that houses, and material things don't mean that much when all you want is a little baby. Good luck to all.
MargOz - glad you're still with us in spirit. Your stress levels sound thru the roof, no wonder you're putting on weight. I sooooo wish I was one of those lucky people who cant eat when stressed and lose weight..sadly..I am soooo not!
Gargy - good luck with moving. It's funny, some people love it so they can do a good clean out and start fresh, unfortunately, I am not one of those either..
Clairebear - I so know how you are feeling. It gets so hard and sad sometimes. Let me ask you - what's POF?? I'm just a simpleton really and don't get a lot of these abbreviations.
Lissie - we're half way thru October already..the time will go so fast now till Christmas and your dreams coming true.
Thanks for all your good wishes for my FET. Am only on day 2 so long way to go yet.
Lulu - have everything crossed for you sweetie - the two week wait is such a drainer but also exciting all rolled into one - goodluck -
Gargy - good luck with the move.
Margo - stress - not good with stress - im already a pretty stressed out person - always worrying about everything and everybody - do something good for you to help with the stress levels.
Claire - sometimes the feelings of sadness just take over - i know that only too well - i try so hard sometimes to pull myself out of it - mostly it works but there are times when its just sooooo hard.
Just got news over the weekend that my older brother is now expecting twins! Wonderful for them as they wanted more kids - already have a 2yr old - but it just brings it home to me that i am motherless and sooooo badly want this for myself.
Hope you all have a great day - and sending out lots of strong positive vibes to all to keep us going.
Excellent to see you back! I hope that the work situation continues to be bearable.
Hope you get motivated to lose the weight (if you want to).
Clairebear,
Can relate to a million thoughts going through my head about the unfairness of it all.
Are you just taking some time to be just a couple again - if so sounds like a great idea.
Lissie,
Christmas is so close! Sending happy vibes to you, particularly after your brother's news. I understand that you are happy for them, but it gives you pain in your own heart.
Lulu,
Everything crossed for you - good luck!!
DonorSyd,
How are you going??
Anney,
Haven't seen you in a while either - how are things?
Got very emotional about the whole moving thing - started getting angry about how other people's lives work out so well for them. Luckily my BF and DH pointed out the flaws in my thinking.
I've also taken some time out with packing, which means I feel less tired. We'll start looking at houses tomorrow (just to drive past).
Yes started needles yesterday (day 2 AF). Last one was an FET.
Can't afford to waste time unfortunately and have no choice.
Sadly every failure gets harder not easier. As each month passes, it kind of feels like another month closer to 'the end'. I really try and stay positive...but you just can't always help those negative thoughts..
Hope all is well with you.
man, I have so much to learn! all these acronyms!!
I had Acupuncture on Friday to get my womb all ready for next Fridays insamination. Will be having more on the day. Hubby and I are getting excited. What a balancing act though - remaining positive while trying not to get your hopes up too much incase it doesn't work out...
What's the secret?
Also trying to avoid questions from family and friends. While we've been sharing our experience up until now - we want to retain some parts for ourselves. we're constantly telling people "we're just going through the process. we'll let you know something when it happens". does that get any easier??
Best best best of luck for Friday - I hope you get a BFP!!
It's normal to be excited but you just have to take one day at a time - literally. The waiting is obviously the hardest.
Good luck..
Many ladies here use acupuncture and find it really helps. I haven't tried it yet but I plan to when we're back in cycle again.
As for avoiding friends and family - I think you are doing a great job with that statement. If it's anything like my friends and family, there will be the ones that are geniunely interested and ones that are just stickybeaks. Over time you'll figure out who's who.
More worried about whether we will find a house at the moment. I was thinking the other day - if you are not worried about one thing, something else takes over. This has been the biggest search yet - probably because I'm trying to find somewhere that feels like a home to raise a child. I hope we find what we need soon.
Hope everyone else is doing well. Thinking of you Lulu...
Lulu,
for you - don't know how much that will help as i don't think anyone listens to me up there! lol
I do still drop in occasionally to see how you are all going but with nothing happening fertility wise for me at the moment I haven't had much news to post.
I'm not feeling as stressed as I was, my sore shoulder, although not 100% yet, has also improved AND my boss has been bearable (just - and for now!). The only problem is that I'm so exhausted - it's been such an emotionally draining few months - I feel like I could sleep for a couple of months at the moment. I thought nothing could be as draining as going through IVF but working for a psychological bully takes the cake!!!
Anyway I crank it up in the car and I really find it helps,I can totally relate....here are some of the words:
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