Donor Conception General Chatter #8

[Malyna]

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Alioops - maybe I missed something re you causing offence - I think its wonderful to know that there are donors out there.

Gargy - hope your holiday goes well.. Can I carry your bags for you?

Blizz - Did you get the test results yet? I have my fingers crossed for your mum. Could Paige possibly be heading for a career as a stunt woman? I hope the cold passes quickly

Lulu - how are things with you?

me - i've got a cold or cold symptoms still - my voice has gone husky, and its gone a few times. Everytime I sneeze or cough I get a sharp pain in my lower abdomin (spelling?) (on the right side) - rang the dr to make an appointment and they offered me one for monday (next week). Will ask the nurse when I go to get my bloods taken on thursday re the pain. I guess I'm not that bothered by it, as I've always had the same pain whenever I've sneezed (and my body has been in the wrong position) since I was a child.

Ultrasound on the 16th to see if we have a heartbeat. I'll just sit back and wait and see what nature brings. No point in worrying about it, won't make any difference to the outcome .. just sitting back and enjoying the journey.

The good news is that I'm down to 1xcrinone a day, still have to take a panadol before going to bed (otherwise I'm up all night with darn stomach cramps) - They are not monitoring my PG levels, only progesterone and I'm hoping that they will weane me off crinone soon - last night I was really to kill to get off crinone, cramping, insomnia - a man must have created this drug and he had something against women!!!! *climbing down off her I-hate-crinone soap box*

[blizz]

me - i've got a cold or cold symptoms still - my voice has gone husky, and its gone a few times. Everytime I sneeze or cough I get a sharp pain in my lower abdomin (spelling?) (on the right side) - rang the dr to make an appointment and they offered me one for monday (next week). Will ask the nurse when I go to get my bloods taken on thursday re the pain. I guess I'm not that bothered by it, as I've always had the same pain whenever I've sneezed (and my body has been in the wrong position) since I was a child.

I am so hearing you on all of this!!!!, I too have been sneezing with this PG but up to 10 times in a row, poor Angus will come out and find life so boring when he is not being constantly thrown around by my violent sneezing, I too get the pain if I sneeze at the wrong angle (sorry to tell you hon, it gets harder to find the right angle the bigger you get!!!!)

I have got some results about my mum and as I kind of expected they aren't good, mum has been diagnosed with the condition called fronto-temporal dimensia, although she is apparently in the very early stages of the condition it is not usually detected for 10 years in to the illness and the specialist thinks that mum is only 4 years in to it.
So I don't really know the ins and outs of it yet but I do know that I learnt my lesson about googling the condition and will wait to get my information off the doctors.
there is a more detailed account of my last few days in my blog.

but don't panic I am feeling a little better about things today.

I am on another course of antibiotics (different ones this time) so fingers crossed for a speedy recovery as my stuffed up head and chest is not helping in any, way, shape or form.I have found a cold medication that my pharmasist assures me is a class A drug and as such, safe to take in pregnancy it is just an antihistamine and panadol and I am only taking it of a night to help ease the congestion in my head so I can sleep.
Paige is on antibiotics again as well

When I feel a little more chipper I will put some photos of your cyber niece's 2nd birthday up for you all, not that I have many that don't have all of her friends attatched to her!!!!

Paige did her first wee on the toilet in the middle of her birthday party, she was getting concerned that all of her friends were using HER toilet, since then we have had three wee's on the potty and lots of cheering and hand clapping

well guys I am going to get organised for tomorrow I have OB's appointment in the arvo so am only working a half day and I will pick Paige up from day care straight after this appointment and head up to visit mum (she is home now at least so I won't HAVE to visit her every night, Paige has started saying "no nanny" when we leave daycare of a night)
I love youse all, take care my sweets
Alliexxxxxx

[dusty]

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back Venus, I haven't seen you since we were in a TWW together last year. I am hoping this time around will bring you much happiness and a great result!

Ali, you will make a wonderful donor and I am so glad you have reactived the Potential Donor thread. I am sure your own journey enthusiasm and interest in donation will help some others to think about their own potential to give such an amazingly selfless gift. I know I will see you elsewhere on the threads.

Tarkine, oh hun crinone is disgusting stuff. I totally know how you feel. But once you hold bubs in your hands it will all fade away. Bring on the 16th and I think your approach is so inspiring. I have learned so much from your way of thinking.

Lulu, you are a sweetie. I hope so too huney!

Lissie, I am getting my pom poms dusted and am gearing up for some embie cheering....

Allie, aggh a cold you poor thing and how cute is Paige and HER toilet. I have replied in your blog too.

Gargy, YAY for your holidays FINALLY!!! I have everything crossed for your FS appointment. Way to go hun!

Just waiting here...
xx

[Malyna]

Blizz Paige is such a caring old soul. I put a post on your blog. Not sure on the right wording - I can understand where you are at the moment (having been there with my mum - different issue).

Dusty - you are my inspiration hun! You are such an amazing person. You have been there for me answering my endless questions, and always willing to catch up for a coffee to talk about life. U R AWESUM!!

[Joy08]

Hi Everyone

Thought I would join in on this thread as DH & I have found ourselves on the path of possibly using donor sperm.
DH was diagnosed as having Sertoli-Cell Only syndrome.. he does'nt have the cells to produce sperm. It came as such a shock as we had been trying to get pregnant for 7 months and as things weren't happening I asked DH to have a semen test to make sure everything was ok... well 2 sperm tests and 1 biopsy later there is no sperm!!
We have found out that the condition is normally genetic but in DH's case it isnt... so it's a mystery!! They are going to do a more intensive search on DH to see if there are any sperm anywhere (hiding somewhere!!??)
Our FS suggested starting me on IVF cycle then timing in DH's operation and if they dont find anything with DH we use backup donor sperm (we have chosen a donor).
We are still getting our head around things... DH is handling things soooo well. We still really want to have a family and this is a good option for us.
We have told our immediate family but am really struggling with who else to tell. I kind of want to tell close friends but DH said we dont have to tell anyone else, he doesn't want our child to find out how they came into the world through hearing other people talking.. and I know what people are like when you tell them something in confidence... 'dont say anything but guess what I found out..' then before you know it it's out there!! We saw a councellor last week and she said the more in control of the situation the better.. the more people who know the more 'out of control' the situation is. Part of me just feels like we are 'deceiving' our friends in a way (DH says I am a very loyal friend!!) We would tell our friends eventually... maybe when child is 5ish?? Sometimes I think it's just easier if people know then we dont have to worry about who knows & who doesnt!! But then the more people who know the more I will worry if they have told others!! Can anyone offer any advice on this?? It is really getting to me!!!
Thank you all so much for listening.. I look forward to chatting to you all soon.....

[Caramello]

And I'm Baaaacccckkkk...

Just going for a meander around the site - catch up soon.

[blizz]

Hi Gargy,
good to have you back hope your holiday was just what the doctor ordered, I think a holiday is definatley on the cards for us shortly I feel the need to run away from everything for about a week so I am thinking Melbourne might be on the cards in the next few weeks watch this space!!!!

[Malyna]

- Welcome back Gargy How was your break?

Joy - I think the decision to tell people if you used donor sperm is such an individual(couple) based decision. A few months ago, there was a series on SBS Future Families. After we watched an episode on DS, DH and I decided that we wanted everyone to know about our decision on using donor sperm. I also come from a family where there is some mystery about the father of my oldest sister (who was born 4 years before my parents were married). For us, we wanted to be upfront with any offspring we have to tell them they were conceived through donor sperm.

You have to do whatever is going to work with your family. I think one of my friends knows we went through donor sperm - and I trust her with this and know she will not do or say anything about it that would hurt me.

Ultimately the decision is going to rest between you and DH. Perhaps time will modify the decision slightly, maybe its best to let it rest for awhile. Good luck with your decision