just thought I'd share some new info I came across regarding donor eggs. 'Epigenetics' can come into play where the carrying mother of the child actually has an influence in the genes forming in an embryo. I need to do a lot more research but found this comforting knowing that instead of just carrying the bub it will actually have parts of me. Makes me feel a lot better about the whole biological thing.
Clemo - I just learned about that too - it's my next research/google assignment.
Anyone know how long it takes to be activated on AED site - I put in my details a few days ago, received an email acknowledgment but not the activation email.
Clemo, yes have also looked into Epigenetics and it's very comforting.
Buliej: $US 30,000 !!!! Ooops. On the other hand with success guarantee and you can chose a donor who matches your looks and probably a very young donor too which gives you a better chance, may have another look into that. You still will have large costs here too as you need to pay your own and your donor's medical costs, some incidental costs for your donor and then may have to go through a number of cycles or not have any success.....
Sorry it has been a while...I have been getting my head around this new law that comes into effect for NSW in January next year:
The NSW Government is about to implement new legislation governing the use of donated semen. This legislation will come into force on the 1st January 2010....one particularly serious issue is that....we will only be able to provide treatment with donated semen where the donor is prepared to go on the New South Wales state register."
Luckily our donor has no issue with it, however it really distressed me when I first got the letter.
DH and I are seriously considering pushing through and doing a cycle in October - my heart says yes, my head is not so sure...
Sorry if this gets complicated but these reasons tie into each other.
Firstly, I had a really bad year last year in terms of work. I had a lot of sick leave, and this was used to try to oust me from my position. Eventually after it was pointed out that this was a naughty thing to do I was told that my current position was not available and I would have to move into a different staffroom to do a different job. All the staff were told that someone had to nominate to be transferred. I felt that it was easier for me to move to a brand new school with a brand new position.
Unfortunately this has not quite worked out. I am now working in another arrangement where I have to be in the same classroom with another teacher. This has nothing to do with me, it was an arrangement made before I even got to the school. This means that my job is very stressful at the moment. I have also had a number of days off sick - which the current school has been tolerant of, but in the back of my mind always is the way I was treated last year.
Secondly I had a really bad year in terms of infertility. After months and months of counselling we were finally ready to use the sperm of our friend and donor. However the IUI failed. Then we went for our first IVF. We had 12 eggs, out of which 4 initially fertilised. 3 then failed. One was placed in - but I was warned it wasn't looking good. Eventually this failed as well.
Thirdly DH and I have an arrangement that we are taxed on the highest income, and then in Sept/Oct we receive a refund which will cover an IVF cycle. We have not done our taxes yet. However there are other calls for this money. In July we decided to go on a holiday instead to Melbourne and Tassie - which we paid for through other means, but this has left a debt. My 40th is at the end of this year. And there are some things around the house that we desperately need: a dryer, a mattress and our 14 year old television is slowly dying. Not to mention simple things like new shoes, clothes etc.
We were not happy but accepted that if we went next year that the cycle would cost more. However I was hoping my health would be better, I would have less stress at work because I would be used to the new set up and I would have classes of my own, and my 40th birthday would be over and done with. We would be able to buy the purchases we needed. Also the failed IVF would be less raw.
However the more that I look at these things the more I think that they are secondary to having a child. The letter really threw me because it put me in the headspace that I was in when our clinic told us there were no more donors. And I realised that having our baby is something that I really want to do.
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