Cadence, my first DS is just like that too. We have gone with the flow so far - not pushing him, but allowing him to take the lead in things. He was able to read all the letters of the alphabet and a few words by the time DS2 was born when DS1 was 19 months. But not because we overly encouraged it, we just answered when he pointed to a letter and asked "what's this?".

Just like your DD, my DS has been doing day care 3 days a week and grandparents 2 days a week while I work ft. It has worked really well, as he gets lots of stimulation. But now, as he is approaching his last weeks before starting proper kindergarten next year, it is showing that he is getting bored. In the past when he got bored they moved him up a room, but now he's already in the oldest room there is nowhere to go.

I am hoping that he will do well at kindergarten, but I am a bit concerned about schooling choices. He is reading lots and lots now, and does maths in his head all the time - every situation he finds himself in he will count, add, subtract and is now starting to multiply. The day care has a carer who is trained in special education, and she tells me that the reason he doesn't mix well with kids his own age is that he at a prep level and he would get along really well with a group of prep kids. Trouble is, that's a whole year away.

So now, we are on the list to have him assessed. Not because I want to push him or label him. But because I think it's going to be important for choosing a school and also for deciding down the track if we should try for him to skip a grade etc.

My advice to you is to wait it out right now, but keep an eye on things. If she is showing the same signs when she's 4 or so, they can be assessed at that age. But you might need to book in quite a bit in advance, so maybe look into it at 3 1/2 or so. GL hun.