How far would you take this? Advice please.

[blessedatlast]

I don't have any advice, but big hugs for you and your daughter Hope it gets resolved and this little boy isn't mean to her anymore.. How traumatic for her

[kimmi]

That's really tough.... My first inclination would be to wait and see how the other child is handled by the school. Maybe tell the school you are open to dialogue with the boys parents and see if they respond to that. If that course of action fails, I would look at having her moved.

It is always hard with international schools as far as the integration of some students can go, but I applaud the teacher for being right onto it!

Good Luck

[Tinks]

How horrible I hope she's ok tonight.

I'd actually wait to see what the principal is going to do about the problem. If he doesn't seem to be doing enough then demand one of the 2 be moved into another class. I feel that if any kid is going to be moved it should be him, not Jess. You don't want it to seem like a punishment for her

[~Jayne~]

Ladies, thank you so much!

I honestly just want to sit down & cry. She hasn't moved off the lounge, she just wants to watch dvd's because now she said she feels 'sick'. I know she's not sick though. It's the beginning of the 'I can't go to school tomorrow because I'm sick' scenario.

To be really honest, if I do move her, I don't want her to think that when somebody does something she doesn't like, Mummy will come to the rescue & move her away from it. But in saying that, I mean pulling down the poor kids pants - seriously!!!

I rang Alan (DH) & his first response was 'Get her moved to Elementary'. I'm not a teacher so I can't say how she would go, but she is the top of her class in Kindergarten, she is a bright child - so I really doubt she would have any issues with it.

The school is really, really proactive on bullying & discipline. Really switched on. I'm really impressed with a lot of stuff. I just recently stuck up for this little boy because a bigger kid pulled him down the stairwell to try get him to fall down the stairs & I told the older kid off & made sure he was ok!!! I just let the receptionist know that some 'dodgy stair action' is happening (the school is on Level 4 - no elevator) & the Principal came & asked me all the details. I felt like such a dobber!

The most sad part is, that even though Jess has started playing with other kids in the class, she still LOVED this kid. She just wanted to stretch her wings a bit. Completely within her 'rights' & 'boundaries' & she even includes this kid into play, but he states he only wants to play with Jess. I'm not making Jess into a saint, because I know FOR SURE that she isn't - but honestly, she is 6 years old. She can play with whoever she damn well wants! lol

xx

[Tinks]

What happened with this Jayne?

[Smoke Jaguar]

Just found the thread - did DD get moved, or the other kid?
What's going on for a kid to do this to their friend, is my first question - personality issues, or home issues? Sounds very controlling, either as a modelled behaviour, or something a bit awry in social processing.
I'd be really interested to know how it's been dealt with and if there have been any outcomes or developments

[Miss.September]

Oh Jayne, I just saw this. I hope Jess is okay and a resolution was found. How horrible

[Livinthedream]

That's really tough.... My first inclination would be to wait and see how the other child is handled by the school. Maybe tell the school you are open to dialogue with the boys parents and see if they respond to that. If that course of action fails, I would look at having her moved.

It is always hard with international schools as far as the integration of some students can go, but I applaud the teacher for being right onto it!

Good Luck

Yeah that ^^^