My MG hasn't started yet, but I was worried I might have the same problem as you. I've been lucky that my Antenatal Class only had 5 couples in it (all gave birth to boys) and we all caught up and have created our own "mother's group." I'm joining Gymbaroo this week, and going to a Mums & Bubs Yoga class as well.
Basically what I'm saying is that if your MG is not your thing, try something else. Even joining a Gymbaroo or Playgroup might be a good way to meet people. And you don't have to be friends with everyone - but hopefully you can click with one or two Mums/Dads and develop friendships (for you and your DD) from there.
ETA: My Doula has 5 kids, and she told me that the MGs she's been a part of have varied - some of them are full of women that she's remained good friends with, but others are the same as yours - the only thing they have in common is that they have babies and live in the same area. You're definitely not the only one to hit this problem with the MG.
We had about 12 in our mothers group, after it was stopped being run by the MCHN it was down to 4 or 5 that would turn up. After one mums bub turned 6 months she went back to work & we never heard from her again & another sent her bub to live with her mother (the baby's grandmother) in India & she told us she didnt want to come anymore because she felt like she didnt fit in without a child there. So there are only 3 of us now & we meet fortnightly, but I also meet up with one girl once or twice a week.
I dropped out of mine after going a few times. They were a very well established group and I found that I was playing catch up...... it was harder work than it should have been. Also, missy was just a bit too little to appreciate the other kids, so I figure I've got a bit of time to find some alternative for her when she gets a few months older.
A few friends have also got babies roughly the same age as missy so I try and catch up with them every week.
I had tried various mothers group and felt exactly the same as you. It is really hard when you are among people yet feel so lonely. I ended up giving up. It wasn't until I was diagnosed with PND and joined a support group that we are now friends and we see eachother every few weeks. I think because we all opened up to each other and they were genuinely lovely ladies.
Some playgroups are for babies, you could give that a go. Keep trying until you click with people you like. Perhaps you have a local community centre that holds play groups. Apart from that you could start up a chat with women you see with babies the same age as yours and suggest a coffee. Best of luck
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