Hi Ladies,

so the EC journey continues.....

I am happy to say that DD1 is doing really well. We did have a little step back when DD2 was born, but DD1 has been consistently dry during the day for several months now, and now also at night time more often than not too. We have also tackled the "scared of poo" hurdle that we had too. I am really proud of her. She is really a little miss independence. She had previously liked using the toilet, but now has gone back to wees on the potty, because she can get the potty, pull her pants down and empty the potty on her own, where as she needed help with the toilet. She does poos on the toilet though, as she likes to hear the "plop" sound! LOL!

But DD2's journey....
well, in the beginning I thought we were going to do really well as she always went the second she was exposed to air, so it was a great opportunty for cueing.
I struggled with trying to hold her over a pot, so made the decision to leave it till she had a bit of head control (I started with DD1 at about 3- 3&1/2 months).
We then sort of took a bit of a break, or realisitically more of a step back (for reasons on my part - DD1 started to get a bit jealous and I was struggling just being a mum to 2 / a new baby & a toddler; DD2 had reflux and colic and her poos were so explosive and constant, we couldn't go pants free (one poo flew out a distance of over 2metres I kid you not!) and also, it was really cold - we live in a shed - and it was just too cold for pants-free, even with leg warmers) so I decided to wait until it got a bit warmer, and she had head control, and thankfuly the colic and reflux settled down.

So, we begin again at around 3 months (she is now 5 months).
and so far, I am really struggling. This experience is so different than with DD1. I know they are different and I shouldn't compare but -
DD1 gave clear signs - would cry before a wee (I thought she had a UTI, and then realised THIS was EC - that is what actually started me on this journey), where as DD2 NEVER cries or shows any distress regarding elimination (only cries if she is sick or tired, or when she had reflux/colic).
I find it really hard, almost impossible to even catch the easy ones like upon waking, as she is quite content to just wake up and lay in her bed for a while, so I often don't know she is awake until well after she has woken - and wee'ed. She doesn't even get distressed if she has a pooey nappy (DD1 would let me know in no uncertain terms).
I have tried keepiing her pants free now that its warmer and have been able to watch and cue her for a few wees, but I don't think I am getting enough of them for it to be consistent enough. Also, some days DD1 (in true toddler fashion) can make it impossible to be that diligent! And I am still struggling to see her signs. I know she flaps her arm if she needs a wee, but she also flaps her arm if she needs a burp, or a sleep, or some attention.
I am not sure where I am going with this, I guess I am just wondering if anyone else had trouble with getting bubs signs or getting cueing?

thanks