Balancing your mind

[C~Q]

And do you think thats the best way to be? So no highs and no lows...not saying it's good to be totally flat and emotionless but it's almost like an addiction trying to be happy all the time don't you think?

[Indadhanu]

I was just writing about this last night!

I think that being ok, and content with, and accepting, what is - is good. But I think striving for happiness is important too. I don't think wanting happiness is bad, but I think being sad about not being happy is a problem though.

I would like to strive to make myself happy, not because I want that happiness high, but because the things and actions that make me happy are positive and good and healthy things to be in my life.
I would like (ideally, in the perfect world KWIM) to be accepting and content with life as it is, even when it isn't perfect because life isn't always perfect. Accepting when things aren't perfect, but still working out why and striving to change it and make it better.

I don't think wanting that amazing feeling is unhealthy, and I don't think that making your life about being happy is wrong either, but it's also important to accept that you aren't always happy. But I don't think you should accept it and not strive to be happy all the time. If you strive to be happy, but accept that sometimes you aren't, then you're letting go of the disappointment if you aren't happy all the time, but not letting go of the goal to be happy.

I hope this made sense? I think I said the same thing about 50 different ways LOL!

[Oorki Galoorki]

i think it is important to cover all emotions
not having really long periods in each but not going from one extreme to the other..

i have some blase weeks (i am in one atm) but i know that soon i will be on a high again.. then i may drop low..

[Lulu]

I don't think it's healthy to try to avoid down times, in fact I believe my best moments of clarity have come from the dark places iykwim? I was reading a great article (that I'm still trying to track down to post here) in which it has been found the we actually operate at a higher level when feeling down/depressed.

Maybe the emos are onto something ? lol

Although Miss Combat, I think you should also consider the highs you get from the physical side of your job. It's fairly known that lots of people get addicted to jogging because of the 'highs' experienced. Not saying you are addicted , but it may well be a physical thing for you too.

[C~Q]

Yunnow i've never thought about that Lu - the high from exercise. It's weird but I don't even notice it anymore but i'm sure I still get it.

I'm just so sick of the low lows...and i'm reasonably content with nothingness, well not nothingness but just not being happy all the time. I mean i'm a pretty positive person, i'm generally cheerful and people descriabe me as friendly and bubbly and when i'm around people I generally always am.

OG - Thats a good way to put it "blase" thats exactly how I feel!

But it kind of feels i'm always looking for somethng to make me "happy" when I should try and get it from stuff I already have. Like the kids, things in my house, nature etc...does that make sense?

Leash - I know EXACTLY what you mean! I think looking for it all the time and getting upset when it doens't automatically come is not good, but being ready to accept it and keeping an eye out for it is a good thing!

If you strive to be happy, but accept that sometimes you aren't,

I think this is it really, thats the balance isn't it...thanks Leash!

Reading this back I kind of feel guilty because i'm saying how I feel "blase" etc when i'm so lucky to have my beautiful family and that should be enough for me shouldn't it??

[megs]

Very good question, although I have absolutely no answer.

At the moment I'm in a very low phase, several factors contibuting to it, but really there is nothing I can do to fix it, they are all very much out of my control.

So how to get back to the balance of enjoying life, as Leasha said, it is good to keep striving for happiness, but is what I deem to need for that happiness what is acutally causing my low moods.

Ahhh I don't know I think I just over think things sometimes.

Good post though

[C~Q]

Hey Megs, sorry you're feeling low When I feel out of control I just think - I can't control what happens to me but I can control how I react to it and my attitude towards that change. I know it's so easy to write that and so hard to actually do though...**hugs** x

[Lulu]

At the moment I'm in a very low phase, several factors contibuting to it, but really there is nothing I can do to fix it, they are all very much out of my control.

I understand how you feel. I've had this going on for a couple of years now
Things I can't change or control....for awhile it's felt like everytime I surface a great big bloody boot pushes me back under.

BUT - I take every opportunity to have a laugh where I can. I watch funny shows, I do my best to catch up with friends and ensure they have me giggling and even head on down to the Just Kidding section in here, cos that usually gets a smile

Nothing can chase the crapness away like a good belly laugh xoxoxo