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Threads PLEASE! I think it's doing some of our heads in!

Now you can choose to take this badly if you've done this, however, this is not an attack... this is guidance.

NO ONE here needs to question themselves in such a negative light. There is no award for who feels the worst with regards to mistakes, or parenting choices they regret. You will NOT receive more support or sympathy for winning any bad mother's stake.

It just makes me sad. Really sad.

Look for support, look for reassurance look for advice, but you can do this without any of these awfully negative terms.

What do you think your children will think or feel if they overheard you on the phone saying to a gf that you were a bad mother. To say that so simply and yet they see you as god? How confusing and possibly distressing do you think that could be?

Why do I see this as a problem? Because I was that mum, I did say those things. And I watched my daughter cry because she thought she had done something to make me think I was a bad mum, because as far as she was concerned (as all kids are) I am the BEST mum in the world And just like it would hurt us to hear our children say "I am the worst son/daughter" it hurts them the same way. But wouldn't you rather your child say to you "Mum I'm really sorry I did xyz, I love you very much and wouldn't want to hurt you." and mistakes should be opportunities to talk about what we can do in the future. Yes talk about how bad it has made you feel, but also focus on what you can do to achieve something better in the future. Be gentle to yourself as you would to your children, they deserve to see that so they have a great example for themselves.



This post has been inspired by a wonderful woman... if she chooses to be named I'll add her name here later