I have come to the realisation that the people who tell lies have their own problems and insecurities.

If your 'friends' believe them, they are not your friends. They would come to your defense and they would come to you and say "hey, this person said this" and give you a chance to explain.

It sounds simplistic and I know it isn't always as easy that. It seems to have worked for me and weeded out the bad and kept in the real.

everyone..it's tough going.