Choices....
In the thread you are talking about, I would consider it to be informed, concious choices. It's a bit harder to apply those things to an emergency CS due to distress for example.
So to try & think of where you might not have a choice....
I will use my BFing experience this time around...
Pie went from the delivery room to SCN & a drip. She was a slow feeder to start with & then I developed oedema. I was expressing to get my milk in from day one. By day 5 I was expressing to feed her as she simply could not attach to massively engorged breasts. It was fluid engorgement, so I couldn't just express a bit off. Now here's where we get to a fork in the road....
I was given the option to stay in hospital with tube feeds, or go home with bottles & try to re-latch her to the breast when the fluid dispersed.
I was apprehensive about bottles because everything I had ever heard said not to do it, but I trusted the advice of the LC's who assured me they had an 80% success rate getting babies from bottle back to breast.
It didn't work. Long story short I am still expressing (weaning now).
So...my choice?
Certainly not my choice to develop oedema. Not my first choice to give her a bottle either, but I was acting on professional advice....
and yet in hindsight I still accept it as my decison, my choice to listen to them and to take their advice. The buck stops with me.
I agree that it's not always simple & clear cut, too often there is bad advice, the wrong advice, no advice at all... and women are left thinking 'I wouldn't have chosen this!'
It's why it's so important to be informed. You can't really make a choice without having some knowledge.
To answer your question, no it might not be a choice to end up with medicalised birth & a cascade of intervention. But if it were me (and it has been) I would still be owning it. Saying 'hey, that's how it was for me cause...'
I know it's not that simple I don't even know if I made sense :9
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