Some of you probably know the decision I have to make but I really would rather not have responces specific to my situation if that makes sense lol (I have the other thread for that!)
But i'd really like to know how people make their decisions? Head or heart? Combination of both? Do you blindly go with what just "feels" right? What if it's wrong? What if you end up making things worse? Although I really do believe that I will make the best of any situation no matter what happens...
I kinda go with my heart, cause if my heart aint happy it isn't worth it... I know I should think with my head for various reasons, but you can make decisions with your head and still not be happy in your heart and really, happiness is the key... Make sense.
Head. I am a worrier and I lose sleep over hard decisions, so I am the one to think with my head. I have made decisions with my heart in the past and looking back, they would have been better had I used my head first. If I didn't have children I would probably be more inclined to think with my heart more often.
So do you think that having kids should change the way you make decisions or change that little inner voice? Not trying to be difficult, I honestly want to know...Lisa have you ever gone against something you felt was right in your heart because you have kids? And did it turn out to be the right decision?
Absolute sense Nic...but what if heart decisions don't leave you happy?
I go with a little bit of both. I'm not sure you can really separate them TBH because if my head says something my heart will eventually follow, and if I feel something strong enough in my heart I will eventually find strong head justifications for that. I can't say I've ever been in a position where I feel divided for very long. I do think that kids do change things though, as in my head will always lead me along paths that are in their best interests, but then sometimes what is best for me is in their best interests. I think it has to be situation specific... Not much help am I, lol.
I tend to trust my instincts regardless of how the heart or head feels about a situation. I've not read the other thread so do not know what its about BUT I kinda believe there are NO bad decisions, whatever you decide is right.
If it makes a situation worse then clearly there was a lesson that needed to be learned no matter how difficult
If it makes a situation better then great.
Worse case scenario if I cannot hear my little inside voice I write a list of pro's and cons for each way and see how they marry up. If that fails I flip a coin needless to say I have never flipped a coin.
I'm a little of both. I do think more with my head when since having kids. I think, because I have to be aware if the long term outcome.
Saying that though, my head and heart can be on the same wavelength. My head does a little tweaking of the heart to make it all work. Does that make sense?
You know, it doesn't always have to be one or the other doing the decision making. They can work in harmony.
That's awesome!!! See, I think you are using your heart AND head. You're thinking of the practicalities of the move and you are aware of it's downfalls etc. It's what your heart is desperate for, if you can make it work, that's fantastic.
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How do you make decisions?
needless to say I have never flipped a coin.
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