Yep, I have mastered the art of invisibility . In my case I think it was something I learnt to do as a child, in my unhappiness I was quite withdrawn. Now I am sometimes surprised to see myself fading again... But I've worked very hard to not let it affect my sense of valuing who I am.
I have learnt there are lots of reasons why people forget to pay attention to other people, and so I refuse to take it personally when it happens to me but I also work quite hard to really pay attention to the people that I do spend time with.
Another one here who has that same feeling. Like Marydean I think some of it stems back from my childhood, it was easier to stay quiet than make a big deal as the consequences were to great if you stood out.
I too am now finding it like that in life, at my work no one acknowledge the births of my children, yet I always organised that hat to go around for others event. Now after being hurt too many times I just don't bother. I know I'm not a person who makes a fuss of myself because I think why would anyone really be interested but sometimes I feel it would be nice if people took the time to be interested in me, like I am in them.
I have a couple of really close friends who are fantastic but the people in the town I now live in well I still just feel like I sit on the fringe of their well entrenched friendship circles.
Sorry I don't have any solutations for you but I like MD motto of not taking it personally.
. In my case I think it was something I learnt to do as a child, in my unhappiness I was quite withdrawn. Now I am sometimes surprised to see myself fading again... But I've worked very hard to not let it affect my sense of valuing who I am.
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