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Yep, I reckon, with me, what you see is what you get. And I always wear sensible shoes (the only exception is weddings) and I think I am a very sensible person.And perhaps boring too (and possibly not so sensible at weddings
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Yes - it took me a long time to get here, but now, what you see is what you get! It took me travelling overseas by myself in my twenties to really become comfortable in my own skin and style. I always hung out with 'alternative' (for lack of a better word) people and I guess I always felt I never lived up to other peoples style - iykwim? When I travelled by myself I learnt that people liked me for who I am and I returned with a true sense of myself. I can change my hairstyle often but I always have a real sense of 'me' if that makes sense?
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Hmmm... yesterday I wore Bond's trackies, a hoodie, no makeup and started the day with wet hair as I washed it in the shower. I took the kids to school, shopped for groceries and cleaned the house. I think the way I looked reflected who I am... a busy mum who has more important things to do in the morning than spend time in front of the mirror.
Today, I had an appointment with my OB. I straightened my hair, put on a bit of makeup and wore jeans with a nice top and some low heels. I looked very different from yesterday, but I think my appearance still reflected who I am.
Tonight we went out for dinner and I applied slightly heavier makeup and wore slacks with an evening-ish top and heels... I'm beginning to feel like I have multiple personalities!!
My point is, in any of those three outfits I would have been perceived differently by a stranger, but I am still the same person and I feel comfortable with that regardless of how my exterior looks. I have been told by people I know that when they first met me they thought I was a snob until they actually spoke to me (but that I am not at all!!). I think (hope!) that is a perception of material belongings more than personality... I wonder if I looked like a snob in my trackies with my hair everywhere, or if someone else pegged me as a bogan?!
I think my appearance does reflect who I am... because I am many different things. This thread is an excellent reminder to not judge a person by their appearance!
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hmmm, I'm a young mum and all of my mum friends are about 10-15 years older then me (lol) I don't usually socialise with younger mums because I just don't get along with them. I find alot of them are still into partying etc. I started talking to a young girl in the parents room and she looked about 12-13 so I asked her how old she was and she was older then me! In turn of course she asked me my age and she said she thought I was about 5 years older. I don't know I'll be appreciative of looking older when I am actually older lol .. but ATM it makes me feel better because I think my maturity is up there with the age that I seem to other people .. If that makes sense?
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no not at all md, i sort of see me in my head with a 1940-1950's dress and apron on each and everyday that to me feels complete and home i wish i was great on the sewing machine. Lots of button's and pretty prints and poka dots, i really honestly see me like that. Just thinking makes me feel warm and fuzzy and right. Maybe your question is helping me discover me. i also see the 1900's as me too.
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Oh hun, you are absolutely not boring. But I totally understand how you feelI guess people would see me as a boring SAHM, because that is what I look like and I am boring!!! That sounds really poor me. but that is honestly how I feel atm.
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Hmm, nope, only occasionally do I feel that I look like 'me'... a lot of it has to do withmy weight, if I could wear what I wanted it would probably say more about me.
I look at DD1 who really expresses herself through her appearance & I think I would love to, but I just can't atm. One day...
Mind you I often wonder what people think of me initially, no matter how I look - just how do I come across iTMS?
Interesting thread
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EXACTLY what I was going to say! Obviously I only buy the clothes I like, but being the size I am, I don't have the same choice as if I were a size 12. In my head I look closer to my av, which has always been my problem - I just don't FEEL overweight. And I am really shocked when I see pics of myself, because I'm so much huger than how I feel, and then I ask the same question, 'What do people think of me, seeing me like this?'
I think they kinda see me. I get comments that I dress funky, and I always look pulled together and 'dress so nicely for my size!' That would just carry over if I were slender, the clothes would still be funky, but I'd have more range. And I'd have a dozen pairs of knee high boots, coz my calves would fit in them!
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No. On the outside, Ilook normal.
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I guess so. This thread has actually made me realise how boring I am. I dress neat and tidy, but that's about it. I live in jeans and tidy looking jumpers/jackets in winter. It does reflect me, I am just a boring SAHM!
I said to DH, "I really am boring!". There is nothing exciting about me at all now I'm a mum, that sounds terrible! I look after three kids, take my eldest to school every day, cook and clean our house. I run a small business on the side, that's about all there is to me.
Years ago I used to work in women's fashion and had two wardrobes full of great clothes. I used to surf and wear a lot of beachy wear, but I'm too old for that now!
I like to wear nicer clothes, but I don't see the point right now while I'm at home all the time. I'd almost feel fake if I wore anything dressy!
I am happy with who I am now though, I'm where I want to be in life. I'm just boring
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I could have written this post Trish.I guess so. This thread has actually made me realise how boring I am
I said to DH, "I really am boring!". There is nothing exciting about me at all now I'm a mum, that sounds terrible! I look after three kids, take my eldest to school every day, cook and clean our house. I run a small business on the side, that's about all there is to me.
Years ago I used to work in women's fashion and had two wardrobes full of great clothes
I like to wear nicer clothes, but I don't see the point right now while I'm at home all the time. I'd almost feel fake if I wore anything dressy!
I am happy with who I am now though, I'm where I want to be in life. I'm just boring
Willow - Thanks. I really need a make over..but I've to find my own style again
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On the other side of the coin - I never judge a book by its cover. I can only hope others are the same ;-)
Once a person starts talking, THATS what use to make a decision about the person - what they say and how the say it. As a working example, I treat everyone I deal with equally, until they open their mouth and spill out a few sentences...this is probably something I've adopted from my employment being a blue shirt.
As for do I think I appear the same to others, I think possibly. I don't have a deep, wise, thoughtful side to me (although I wish I did). I get around in my sports and surf wear on a daily basis and am generally light and bubbly in personality. However I love the fact that few could pick me as being a blue shirt - and in saying that, when it comes to work most underestimate my level of knowledge in the male dominated area of policing, traffic. So I quite like the fact people might not be able to figure me out (must be the Aquarian in me lol)!!!
I am confortable with my appearance now, I wasn't about 9 mths ago though.
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