Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourself

[C~Q]

I definitely think you have to let go of certain people but I don't think you should let go of them before you realise what they have given you - even if they used and abused you from day dot I'll bet they have improved your life in some way or another - even if it's just in making you a stronger person, made you that little bit more angry to fight harder for somebody else...

I think that you end up drawing people in who you need to teach you a lesson so the sooner you can learn that lesson the less time they have to be in your life...but they do need to be there. I think being able to realise this and be able to thank that person (even if they've hurt you really badly) would be an amazing thing to do. I'm not saying i'm there, I wish I was, but i'd like to think i'm on the right path to getting there!

[AngelPunks]

The friend I said goodbye to, I did actually thank them for what they taught me while we were friends.

Heck sometime in the future, I could probably even thank my xh for the lessons I have learnt as a result of him being in my life. Not saying I could do it now, not even in the next year or so, but maybe if we ever cross paths again sometime in the next few decades, I could possibly thank him (ok I'd never thank him for being emotionally abusive).

[C~Q]

You know hun I think at some point if you try you could thank him for that...it's a very harsh way to learn a lesson that you've learnt haven't you? You've learnt now what you will NEVER put up with again...he has made your life better because now you have a better future...does that make sense?

I'm not saying you can excuse it but you hopefully will one day be able to see how he has impeoved your life - no, not how he has improved it, but how he has made YOU improve your life x

[AngelPunks]

You know hun I think at some point if you try you could thank him for that...it's a very harsh way to learn a lesson that you've learnt haven't you? You've learnt now what you will NEVER put up with again...he has made your life better because now you have a better future...does that make sense?

I'm not saying you can excuse it but you hopefully will one day be able to see how he has improved your life - no, not how he has improved it, but how he has made YOU improve your life x

Babe - yeh I can see it. He sure as heck didn't improve my life & I'll be paying for his input into my life for many years to come. But I did learn a lot about myself. I have set myself a benchmark for future relationships.

I have improved my life dramatically since we split. I am a different person to the person I was, heck I'm way different to the person I was when we split, or even the person I was the last time I spoke to him face-to-face.

Each day, I make the effort to work on myself.

[Bathsheba]

I just found this amazing thread! Love it CQ Can't reply AM (waiting for someone to call back) but looking forward to!

[C~Q]

I'd forgotten about this thread! Well today I was very "wise"! Dr Demartini says "Wisdom is the instantaneous recognition that crisis is a blessing" well today I went to pick up the dog from the pound only to be told he's already been re-homed then had the car serviced which turned out to be $750 - almost all the money I have...so I had to cancel dinner this weekend for my 30th birthday BUT...my three beautiful children (though upset about the dog) are healthy and happy and all my bills are paid and there is food in the fridge/cupboard...so it doesn't matter! And I know that something good will come out of all of this, or a will learn a valuble lesson (maybe that it doesn't matter how I celebrate my birthday as long as i'm with the ones I love).

Oh almost forgot - the kids have nits so since midday I have been picking the eggs out of their heads...but I guess that just means i'm spending "quality" time with them loL!

Ahhhh dear....!!!

[MrsFabuloso]

I'd forgotten about this thread! Well today I was very "wise"! Dr Demartini says "Wisdom is the instantaneous recognition that crisis is a blessing" well today I went to pick up the dog from the pound only to be told he's already been re-homed then had the car serviced which turned out to be $750 - almost all the money I have...so I had to cancel dinner this weekend for my 30th birthday BUT...my three beautiful children (though upset about the dog) are healthy and happy and all my bills are paid and there is food in the fridge/cupboard...so it doesn't matter! And I know that something good will come out of all of this, or a will learn a valuble lesson (maybe that it doesn't matter how I celebrate my birthday as long as i'm with the ones I love).

Oh almost forgot - the kids have nits so since midday I have been picking the eggs out of their heads...but I guess that just means i'm spending "quality" time with them loL!

Ahhhh dear....!!!

Sorry things are crappy at the mo. But great that you're looking on the bright side!