Has anyone sought or considered an Aspergers (or similar) diagnosis as an adult?

[Jellyfish]

It has definitely been freeing for my family and I to accept. It inspired a lot of introspection and growth as I could question my reactions and reject them more easily. It has also made me less fearful of rejection and failure because I understand why not everyone can get me which has made me more outgoing and led to expanding my social circle and experiences in great ways.

The only reason it might be helpful with your DD is to explain it to her new teacher each year? Then they can make allowances for her (with routine, etc.) and also understand where she's coming from?

This isn't a concern for us currently as we will be homeschooling but should that change or DD1 request to go to school then we will probably need a diagnosis to help her and others relate. With kindy there does not seem to be issues as it is only a 5 day fortnight so lots of recovery/down time and there is a lot of freedom and self direction which suits her perfectly as she doesn't like to move on from things before she is ready/finished, she likes to explore things quite thoroughly and the restrictions of timelines and timetables will be difficult for her to abide by should further schooling be pursued.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

FWIW, I mention it to DS's teacher each year and it really depends on the teacher if anything is done about it. His Nursery key worker picked up on it around his second birthday and she was really good with him.

I've tried the "learn socialisation" books. Honestly? They suck. They really suck. Patronising and do not enhance my knowledge. I can teach Liebling better than books, and I do. We spend a lot of time with regular children's books figuring out what people are feeling and why they are feeling like that based on pictures and the narrative. It does help him - although he sometimes forgets to apply this to the real world when he's having fun. And I understand where he's coming from more than a specialist would. (I know an excellent specialist and she struggles to get me, and that isn't hard.)

Sounds to me like you are self-aware and know your limits. Once you know yourself you can start to extend your limits as you find comfortable, such as going to a closer shop with a list and a friend to help. WRT the truth, most people take "oh, new haircut" as a compliment. Even if you first thought "oh, ugly haircut". But it is new and you're not lying.

Interestingly, I would go camping if only I could guarantee the food. But I can't. So it's either eat out for every single meal or go with a caravan. I can't cope with not having a fridge. And in some cases, an oven. But the boys can do a boys camping adventure and I can stay home, so that works out well for all of us.