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She seems kinda sad and very much wrapped up in herself. You do seem like a very kind and giving person and definitely deserve some reciprocity in your friendships.
I don't have experience with this as such, but I know in the past I have been a bit like this - not really making an effort, not really showing an interest in others (although, never quite to this extent, I'd have asked about surgery at the very least!). But anyway, though it was hard to hear at the time, I am very grateful to the friend who told me this. I have changed a lot and made more of an effort. I'm not naturally the caring, thoughtful person that you seem to be, but I apreciate those qualities in other people very much and don't want to be a selfish, oblivious person.
So anyway, regardless of whether there's a future in your friendship (and maybe there isn't) you'd be doing her a favour to tell her all this.
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SmilesI'm sorry that she is doing this to you. You are such a kind and lovely person and don't deserve it. I hope that you can get some distance between you and her in the most peaceful way possible and I hope she lets you go without a fight. I don't think confrontation is necessarily going to help anything in this situation. Even if you did say something to her about it, I think she might just turn herself into a victim. If you are living in the same small town with kids the same age there is a good chance that you will have something to do with her in the future so if you can part ways without a fuss it would be the best option. I hope that if you ever have to interact with her again that she may have matured a little bit and is able to reciprocate a friendship.
JM i thought the same thing she may make herself look like the victim, and yes by telling her i can't see it being a pleasant outcome i mean how could it. If someone told me something so negative about myself and then added they want nothing to do with me i would be a horrible blow, i think natural instinct anyone would do what they could to defend themself. Also it's possible which ever way it come out it could feel like an attack.
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I have never been able to call her a friend or introduce her to someone as a friend and i've always been aware of that so i guess by my still doing it after all these years the alarm bells were going off, that something wasn't sitting right.
DP & i both agreed a long time ago that she has a problem with lying as we have caught her out to tell us some whoopers, so right there that was off putting. My DP has always said he feels she has some underlying self esteem issues and i have picked up on that. And a few times she has tried to make feel crap about something for her own gain so right then i knew there wouldn't be a friendship as such.
Megs yeh my DD started 3year old Kinder last year but sadly the group of Mum's are not so friendly ... maybe her 4year old Kinder next year will bring in a new group of Mum's to meet.
As for now i do have two really lovely kind Mum's whom i regard as good friends (not ones i go out night time socialising with but at least i know their there if i need help), we help each other out and share our kids clothes, etc and always show genuine concern for each other and ask advice of each other too, ... one even made me soup and dropped it off after i had surgery - now that's what i call a friend
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