I have been in that situation before. In the end the only thing I could do was be completely honest and tell the person that I just didn't want to be their friend anymore, because x, y and z. You know what? The lead up to it was wrose then the actual 'disscussion'. Once I had told her that, I felt liberated and she took it quite well, I think because I had been honest, rather then just becoming resentful and nasty and petty.
I would suggest ringing her up to talk to her. If you need you could write up a script or list of the issues you have so that you don't get flustered (and she won't know you have a list if you are on the phone). Be prepared that she may try and talk her way out of it and minimise things. I always fell back on "You are probably right (about whatever), but I cann't help my feelings whether they are rational or not, and I would just like to end this friendship now while I still have good memories and haven't become too bitter and negative."
She's really not getting the hint is she? Can you recruit a mutual friend to tell her to back off. Pick someone with a bit of tact though! I also wouldn't do the big ending right now as she might just put it down to emotional overdue pregnant woman.
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