thread: How do I stop these negative feelings?

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  1. #1
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    Dec 2007
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    Thank you..

    Things have picked up a little today, and maybe I was hormonal too last night when I let it get to me. We aren't/weren't on the brink of ending it, but communication is required on both our parts to get things back to where we were!

    Kelly, will def look at that book for future meltdown moments..
    Last edited by Doing my best; December 7th, 2009 at 08:14 PM.

  2. #2
    Lucy in the sky with diamonds.

    Jan 2005
    Funky Town, Vic
    7,070

    Oh babe - tell him you need him back xoxoxo

    I wouldn't automatically think he doesn't want to be a family man, he might be finding it harder than he thought (happens to lots of us!), he might not be able to find the words.

    GL xoxoxo

  3. #3
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    Dec 2007
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    Oh babe - tell him you need him back xoxoxo

    I wouldn't automatically think he doesn't want to be a family man, he might be finding it harder than he thought (happens to lots of us!), he might not be able to find the words.

    GL xoxoxo
    I did about 11o'clock last night..

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    Feb 2003
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    Yeah it's so frustrating that when men have problems and are dealing with stress, they pull back and go into their cave, whereas women need to talk... even on a hormonal level, the effects are huge. Especially in this day and age, women are becoming more like men, and our brains and bodies aren't coping with it. We have something like 8 times more blood flow to the part of our brain that deals with stress, we don't have as much capacity/storage for our happy hormones and don't make it as easily as men do... so we have to try and make changes so that we can be as happy as we can be. All of this comes down to the way we once lived... women would be together, talking lots and nurture one another while the men went off and hunted. There was not so much stress for women. Those activities created oxytocin and all those other nice happy hormones. But now, we're trying to operate in ways not optimal to our biological programming so women these days are more stressed than they have been in history.
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